Tim’s recent problems with his Washington license mean we’re actually saving some money. Since the documents have to be officially processed through the state capital, his license is still in limbo while he’s up there. That means no rental car, saving us about $150-200.
On the other hand, it’s extremely aggravating to be stuck at the mercy of everyone else’s schedule when you wanted to be able to zoom around town.
So, in a way, I wish we hadn’t saved the money. I mean, I like keeping costs down, but not when the price is extreme frustration for Tim and my feeling helpless to do anything about it. Fiscally, we win, but emotionally it’s a big loss.
We already had to make a sacrifice with my not coming up to Washington. It wasn’t just the cost of a second ticket ($234) and boarding the cats ($200ish), though that was a factor. Really, it’s the fact that I have a supremely hard time getting a good night’s rest on the beds at his parents’ house. Plus, I would have to work, while Tim would be off visiting people, so I’d feel stranded. (Of course, now that we know about the license thing, it would have been an even bigger headache to fit in work with getting him out to Tacoma to visit people.)
When I added up the costs — physical and financial — it just didn’t make good sense for me to go with him. Still, I did want to be there for him during his disability hearing. I know from experience that the anticipation is far more nerve wracking than the actual hearing. But he hasn’t been through it, so I would have liked to be there to support him.
Tim was a good sport about it all. Well, at first he was apoplectic. But once I laid out my reasons, he quickly came around and realized the logic was sound. Just sucky.
So, in all, I suppose we’ve “saved” a lot of money. The word is in quotes because a) not spending money isn’t always the same as saving it and b) while we may have saved money, emotional frustrations more than compensate.
Have you ever had frugality thrust on you by circumstance? Are you glad that you saved the money, or would you have paid to avoid the frustration?