For ages now, I’ve been meaning to give Tim some mad money. Not surprisingly, there just hasn’t been a good time.
But I finally just said to hell with it and am handing him $150 each month to do with what he will. That covers any and all things that catch his fancy: video games, graphic novels, non-necessary clothing, etc.
The deal is this: That $150 is his to spend as he sees fit. But when it’s gone, it’s gone.
Most importantly, he can’t ask me for anything frivolous that isn’t covered by those funds.
This is incredibly important — and utterly worth the $150 a month — because ADD means that just about everything catches his eye. (Or it certainly seems that way.)
And, frankly, I’m tired of policing it all. I either have to say no to the man I love and to whom I want to give everything he wants (barring the utter Hoarders effect it would eventually have), or I say yes and then have to scramble the budget and am generally annoyed/stressed.
It’s an incredibly unfair situation to be in — not just for me, but also for Tim. I have the stress of having to always say yes or no (a losing proposition no matter what), but he also has to ask for every little thing that he wants.
So… Mad money it is.
I suppose that I’ll have to allot myself some funds, too. But if I’m going to do that, I think we need to include a few more things in this fun money.
For example, I spend way too much on candy each month. Similarly, I really hate it when Tim forks over two bucks for a small can of energy drink. So I think these kinds of snacks should come out of our personal funds, too.
I guess there are still some details to be ironed out.
Do you guys have mad money (or do you call it an “allowance?”) and if so what’s included? And, if you feel comfortable disclosing this, how much do you allot?