We’ve been walking wounded here this past week.
Tim got a bad chest cold, and I followed suit pretty quickly. We thought Tim had a sinus infection and planned to take him to a clinic on Thursday. But on Wednesday night, his asthma flared up and we had to go to the ER at 11:45 p.m. (The 40-hour clock starts now.)
Turns out it wasn’t just a bad cold, nor was it a sinus infection. It was pneumonia. Lovely.
He got released at 4 a.m. At 9:30 a.m., I was in my doctor’s office to make sure I didn’t also have pneumonia.
Tim was concerned because my symptoms were similar to his, if milder. I didn’t have pneumonia, but she did think I had a sinus infection and put me on antibiotics.
Tim was still worried, so the doctor told me to come back if my breathing got worse. Which, of course, it did a mere three hours later. I started coughing a lot and wheezing when I exhaled.
But my doctor was gone for the day, so I had to go to an urgent care clinic. The doctor there agreed with the previous diagnosis: not pneumonia. He explained a little better that this was a secondary infection, caused by the original bug, that had made its way into my sinuses/bronchi. Double lovely.
Then on Friday, I had a miscarriage.
I hadn’t announced the pregnancy because we were being more circumspect after the first miscarriage. It didn’t help this time, though. I think I’m still too sick to really grieve. I guess that will come later.
Here’s the thing: I get that there’s never a GOOD time to have a miscarriage. But this was on Tim’s and my anniversary (four years married, six together) and two days before Mother’s Day. That’s the universe slapping you in the face. With a big wet fish.
Since my OB/GYN closes early on Fridays, we had to go to the ER when the bleeding worsened. We arrived at the hospital just before 2 p.m. That means we visited two ERs, one urgent care clinic and one plain old doctor’s office in just over 38 hours.
Usually, I’d pontificate more. But I’m supposed to basically lie down as much as possible for the next few days. The more I’m up and about, the worse the bleeding and cramps will get. And they’re already bad enough that I’m taking regular Vicodin.
So I’m going to go lie down and wait for all of this to hit me in a way that’s more than physical.
I probably won’t post until at least Tuesday.
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Oh Abby, I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you all.
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Many prayers For your recovery in all the ways you need. Take care and know that God really is in control even when it doesn't seem like it. Prayers for everything to smooth out and your broken heart to mend.
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Abby, I am so sorry, you and Tim are in my prayers.
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Miscarriage on Friday, too. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Life will get better.
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Oh, I am so sorry. Sending virtual hugs.
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I just want to pass along a *hug*
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I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
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Oh, man. That sucks. Take it easy; take all the time you need. My thoughts are with you, and wishes for healing and comfort.
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Sending healing thoughts your way.
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so sorry for your loss.
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Thinking of you.
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So sorry. I think sometimes people don't realize how much of a loss a miscarriage is – take as much time as you need to heal and grieve.
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Abby, I'm so sorry you and Tim are going through this. Please take care of yourself.
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Oh, so sorry to read this.
Virtual hugs.
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Wow. What a lot on your shoulders. So sorry to hear about this.
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My god. Another miscarriage. I'm so sorry.
And you and Tim have got that horrible bug that's been going around, too? That thing made me as sick as I've ever been, and it took over two months to get over it. Friend has it now and is having the same experience. Keep an eye on that…a miscarriage could weaken you enough to allow the horrid thing to morph into pneumonia. Take care of yourself…hope you feel better!
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so sorry to hear of your loss…
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So sorry, Abby. Take care of you, honey. It will take time, (probably more than you want it to) but you have got to give yourself as much time as you possibly can to heal physically. Otherwise, everything will take longer to settle back down. Is there anyone with you right now who can help you with things like errands or food shopping or bill management until you both can come up for air?
Nessie
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So sorry to hear this – I read it on your Mom's blog. My heart goes out to you and your family.
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