So we saw the reproductive endocrinologist on Wednesday. Fun fact: The hematologist never sent the information that he said (three weeks ago) would be sent the same day. Also, the genetic counselor still hasn’t sent over Tim’s results despite two requests.
We told the RE that both of us were given the all-clear on the genetics tests. And that the hematologist didn’t find anything wrong.
He understandably still wants to get the records. But he went ahead and gave us options anyway. He wasn’t willing to put me on anti-coagulants “just in case.” So that’s out.
Instead, we have three options:
- Fertility drugs
- Just keep trying on our own
IVF is out of the question.
Even if we had $10,000 – 15,000, we wouldn’t spend it trying to make a new child.
At that rate, we’d just go adopt outside the U.S. or something. (With our health problems, I truly doubt anyone here would willingly give us her baby — especially with so many eager, healthy parents out there.)
But we don’t have that kind of money anyway, so the whole thought exercise is moot.
Also out of the question is trying again without adding anything to the mix.
So we’re going to try fertility drugs. Before any of you freak out, the doctor is only going to give me enough to release two or three eggs. Nothing crazy.
The idea being that if there’s multiple eggs, it’s more likely that at least one is chromosomally healthy.
Even though the “product of conception” (ugh) that we sent off to a lab tested normal. I mean, there’s certainly a chance that it was the only one of five that was fine. But it seems unlikely, since each time the fetus has simply stopped developing.
Then again, I have absolutely no scientific or medical background. So maybe he’s right. Doesn’t feel like it, but maybe.
Tim wants to try a new doctor. He thinks this guy is disorganized. But mostly the issue has been records, which is reliant on other doctors.
More importantly, I just don’t have it in me to find someone new, get a referral, set up an appointment, review all our history, hope that this time records are transferred without issue, and see what he/she suggests.
Instead, we have an appointment with the current RE for June 3rd. At that point, they’ll do an ultrasound to check on egg development or something. I’m still not completely clear.
Then he’ll give me the shot to release extra eggs. I’ll get sent home with a prescription for progesterone, and I’ll take folic acid (integral to vascular development) and baby aspirin. Just to cover all of our bases.
If that doesn’t work, then maybe I’ll try a new doctor to see if (s)he has any other suggestions. If there’s a new theory, we can decide whether it’s worth it to try yet again.
Or we’ll just accept that we weren’t meant to have kids of our own.
In which case we’d get started on the foster care application and see if we qualified for that. I know we have health problems, but we also have a total of four people to keep an eye on any kid/teen we get. I’d think that counts for something.
And if that doesn’t work… well, think about how much more we’ll be able to put into retirement and how much more we can afford to travel and… sigh.
Have any of you tried fertility meds? Anyone know about how long it takes to get approved for foster care? Or heck, just tell me something positive going on in your life.