As we were signing in for the procedure this morning, we were told the copay was not the $150 we’d paid on the other two occasions. Instead, thanks to changes with my insurance, we were now responsible for 20%, or $978. The only way we’d get the $150 copay would be to use one of our HMO’s surgery centers. And the one we could find doesn’t do D&Cs.
Needless to say, we canceled the appointment.
The doctor has said that he won’t prescribe medications. Apparently, he’s ended up having to go to an E.R. one too many times from that type of prescription. Which makes me afraid to go with the plan of just finding a different doctor who would prescribe them. Sigh.
So for now we’re back to the “maybe nature will takes its course” stance. I have no desire to wait another few weeks in limbo, but I was already unhappy with the idea of a third D&C. Now that we’d have to pay 652% of what we were expecting, I’ve decided I can deal with the uncertainty for awhile. Worst case scenario, we wait it out and still have to get the procedure. At least then I will have really tried.
In the meantime, I guess I’ll look up some more natural suggestions on the web. (Feel free to throw in your suggestions below.) I was even considering the parsley option, but Tim is against it. And has said that, if I do it anyway and we hit a situation where neither of us can “retrieve” the sprig, I have to be the one to explain things to whatever doctor we visit. That caused me to reconsider.
This time around, I’ll try to find advice for women who have had embryos stop developing, rather than women who are worried that they are and want to induce menstruation. A comment or two indicated that there may be a difference in results for the two groups. I doubt it, but another look-see won’t kill me. Plus, I won’t have to read more rationalizations.
To be clear, I’m pro-choice. Even after all the heartache Tim and I have endured trying to keep a pregnancy going, I don’t have a problem with women who want to end theirs. But the sites I’ve been reading seem to want to make a distinction between inducing a miscarriage and having an abortion. The only difference, folks, is the method that gets your body to expel the tissue. I don’t like to see women try to rationalize that miscarriage is somehow kinder or (if they’re worried about such things) morally better about making your body miscarry “naturally.”
Whether you use Western medicine or teas/supplements, you are making your uterus abort the embryo in your uterus. In my book, if you actively try to end a pregnancy, it’s an abortion. Sugar coating it doesn’t do you any good in the long run because, take it from someone who’s had PTSD, denial eventually cracks. Just accept what you are doing and move forward. Anything else is just exhausting.
I’m off to email an old friend who’s a doula.