In an effort to stay aware of my spending, I’ve started keeping a spending diary. It also provides a peek into my life, so I started sharing them with you guys. Here’s yet another installment:
Thursday: It was a quiet day. I worked, then went to therapy ($25 copay). My therapist is delighted that I’m on Tinder and living it up. I’ve been instructed to keep on going and to enjoy myself.
It was 111 degrees out, which made me crave cool foods. I picked up some hummus, cucumbers and rainbow sherbet ($8.48). From the Dollar Tree, I picked up Whoppers and ginger snaps ($2) — not cool, but delicious. Needless to say, my diet isn’t going well.
Total spent: $35.48
Friday: It was a quiet day, with work and exercise and not much else. After work, I got a massage. Ahhhhhh. I tipped $14 out of my walking around money.
The car was on fumes, so I filled up the tank for $30.84. I saved $2.29 with my grocery store rewards discount, so that went into saved savings.
The guy who I was supposed to meet up that night flaked, never getting back to me with a time or place. Second time in a week that a guy has done that to me. Both of them 40-somethings. Turns out the younger guys are more reliable. Whodathunkit?
Luckily, I had already set up a backup, so we met at (ugh) 9:15 p.m. for a drink.
I paid $1.35 for parking downtown. The only good thing about meeting so late is that it wasn’t long until parking became free.
He paid for my drink, then we wandered around chatting. In the 99-degree heat. While I was in jeans. Because apparently I’m an idiot. (One who assumed we’d be in a nice, air-conditioned bar for most of the date.) While we were wandering around, we ended up going for ice cream, which helped make up for the sweating.
Since he paid for the drinks, I paid for the ice cream ($9.36 since it was gourmet, handmade stuff).
It was delicious. I had a scoop of honey lavender and also a scoop of bourbon toffee crunch. Yep, two scoops. Because I was hot, love ice cream and am not shy about eating on a date.
He scored points by telling me I was even more radiant in person. Never one to take a compliment well, I blushed, stammered thank you and generally held back from suggesting that my “radiance” was just sweat.
Total spent: $57.84 ($43.84 out of weekly funds)
Saturday: I was able to sleep in until 8 a.m., but that wasn’t enough since I went to bed at 1:30 a.m. I got up groggily and texted the guy I had a date with because he still hadn’t said when or where we were meeting up.
Then I messaged back and forth with my friend on WhatsApp for about an hour and a half. We discussed her plans for her boyfriend’s upcoming birthday party.
The guy got back to me. We were both pretty tired from the week — I’d just worked 13 days straight thanks to overtime, and he has a physically demanding job — so we agreed that I’d just go over to his place and we’d chill out and have some drinks.
I went over at 3 p.m., only to discover that we had to make an appearance at a close friend’s son’s birthday party. He’d thought it was on Sunday when he’d invited me over. So I ended up getting introduced to some of his closest friends, ones practically considered family. Always interesting on a third date.
Everyone was nice, but I mainly hung back on the periphery and listened to other people talk because… Well, all of these people were parents or their kids, all of whom who already knew one another.
(The birthday boy made out like a bandit, by the way. He got a bunch of toys and $175 in cash.)
We went back to the guy’s place around 5 p.m. and just chilled out for a bit. I left around 8 p.m. I was starving, and there was nothing at home that was going to fill me up. So I stopped and got some takeout ($8.91).
Then I went home, watched an episode of iZombie, and went to bed around 10 p.m.
Total spent: $8.91
Sunday: I woke up around 8 and worked on the blog a little. At 10:30 I ran out to Peoria (a suburb) to pick up some choker necklaces I found on OfferUp. My black one lost some beads, so I thought I’d find an affordable replacement. I ended up having to buy two lots of three necklaces to get the ones I wanted, but they were still only $4 total. I paid out of my walking around money.
I also stopped at Walgreens to get some Claritin and a couple of other things. The total was $42.21.
A date came over to play board games again. This was a third date, the second one of him coming over. He’s a bit of a homebody. We played Ascension a couple of times, then chatted for about an hour. Then he took off, but not after finally working up the courage to kiss me. It’s kind of cute that it took him three dates to do it.
I worked on the blog some more, then watched the Han Solo movie on Netflix (which was meh), and otherwise chilled out.
Total: $46.21 ($42.21 out of weekly funds)
Monday: It was a busy day at work, but I had to take a break midday to go get a follow-up mammogram. Yup, I’d gotten called back, and I’d been riddled with anxiety for about a week leading up to it. Happily, everything turned out to be fine.
On the way home, I stopped at Fry’s and picked up some junk food to celebrate/relieve stress. That came to $10.98.
The Hulu bill hit the account, debiting $6.49.
Around 4 p.m., I got a message from a new guy on Tinder seeing if I wanted to meet up. I had nothing better to do — and still needed to blow off some steam — so I said yes. We agreed to meet up at 9 p.m. (Which is too late for me, but oh well.) I took an Uber to the date for $7.68 after tip.
The date didn’t go well. Not only did he ask me just a single question about myself in the 90 minutes we were together, but he also claimed to have dated the director of Twilight (she’d have been in her 50s while he was in his 20s — not impossible, but unlikely on so many fronts) and to have nearly been Edward. He also claimed to have coordinated red carpet events for Sony. Because that’s something actors fall into.
We hugged goodbye and he texted me a few minutes later to say that he hoped it wasn’t too awkward because he couldn’t read me as he was “out of practice lol.” I told him there just wasn’t a spark and I didn’t think a second date was a good idea. He replied that he was sorry if I’d gotten the impression he wanted to date. And agreed. And to take care.
I guess that’s why he bought my drink and worried about the awkwardness of the goodbye and called himself out of practice. Because he was looking for friendship. Right. #WoundedMaleEgo
Total spent: $25.15
Tuesday: I was sleep deprived from the bad apparently-not-a-date running late, and I was just generally having a terrible day. So I got takeout for lunch ($8.91). This is becoming a problem and I need to exercise some self-control here.
Since I was so tired — and it was 111 degrees out — that was the only trip I made outside that day. The guy from Saturday came over for a little bit and we hung out, but overall it was a quiet night. I was in bed before 10 p.m. to make sure I got plenty of sleep to compensate for the late night on Monday.
Total spent: $8.91
Wednesday: An expensive day, so I had to start a new financial week. At least the previous one lasted nine days. That’s something.
I had a beauty service done for $40. On the way home, I stopped by Walgreens where I picked up some BOGO50 lotion. It was $18.71 after tax, but I had $10 in rewards. So I spent $8.71 with $10 going to saved savings.
Then at trivia I was super hungry, so I ended up ordering three $6 items. This means that after tip it came to $23.44. Ouch.
The good news is that we came in first at trivia. Hooray!
Total spent: $82.15
Total spent: $264.65 ($246.65 out of weekly funds)
Definitely not great. The last day of the week is what really made this a doozy, but it was already a pricey week compared to Spending Diary # 5 and #6. It looks like those are the aberrations, though, and that my actual spending in a normal week is around $200-220. I don’t love that, so I’ll need to see if I can trim it down a bit. Without sacrificing too much quality of life.