These spending diaries are a way for me to be more cognizant of my spending. They’re also a peek into my daily life for those who care.
For those who are new, my style of “spending” is a little convoluted. I have two checking accounts. I keep the majority of my money in the secondary account, transferring $280 a week into the main account. But I charge everything to the card to maximize rewards. As charges accrue, I transfer money out of the main account into the secondary one. Then I make a weekly payment on my credit card.
A tad confusing, perhaps, but it works for me. Anyway, here’s how spending went this week. But first a note: These spending diaries are around 10 days behind, so please know that all of this going out and meeting new people was before the recommended social distancing. I’m doing my best (as I explain here) to be more cautious now… While still having some social contact so I don’t go insane.
I worked and worked out. Didn’t get much done on the blog unfortunately. Other than that, not much happened. I played a bit on Bumble and Tinder. Two Bumble guys indicated they might be interested in meeting up. But we didn’t make any firm plans.
I matched with three guys on Tinder (because yes, I got bored and swiped a few times). One was weirdly enthusiastic about everything. I guess I wasn’t sufficiently exuberant because he stopped texting after a few messages. I was on the fence about him anyway, so no huge loss.
I did match with a very hot guy who turned out to live very close to me. Unfortunately, he was going out of town on Monday, so he was busy that weekend. We agreed that we could meet for a lunch date the following day. He said he’d text me with a time (I guess his schedule varies?) by bedtime.
I went to bed around 9:30 p.m. and was asleep by 10.
Total spent: $0
I worked and set up the spending diary to publish the following day. Unfortunately, I’ve been very uninspired with what to write about lately, so I didn’t do much actual work on the blog.
The guy who I was supposed to see at lunch didn’t get back to me until 25 minutes before his lunch break. As I was still unshowered and in my PJs (and the destination was about 15 minutes away), I told him it wasn’t feasible but that he should text me if he still wanted to meet up when he got back in town.
He texted me almost immediately to say he should be available this weekend. Which was just dandy since I already had feelers out about dates every day that weekend. Ugh. I told him I was probably busy at night but we could maybe meet during the day?
Meanwhile, I set up a date with a Tinder guy (one who — shockingly — actually interacted with me in a non-gross way!) for Tuesday. But as it became apparent that I wasn’t going to hear back from the Bumble guys in a timely manner, I told him I might be available that night. We agreed I’d keep him posted.
Then I messaged a guy I’ve seen a few times and set up a hangout for Monday.
I didn’t feel great, but I worked out anyway (minus the ankle weights as a compromise). Then after work I ran to the store to get groceries. I did a half-assed prepper stock-up so the total was higher than usual at $53.66.
I came home and chilled out. Still no word from the two Bumble guys I’d asked about Friday and Saturday night dates. So at 5 p.m. I messaged the Tinder guy and proposed we meet. Unfortunately, the soonest he could meet was 9 p.m. since he had promised a buddy he’d hang out.
I agreed and decided to just take my energy medication late.
I did hear back from one of the Bumble guys (at 6 p.m.) who I’d proposed a Saturday date with. He said he already had plans. So I told him we’d try to figure something out later. He’s not terribly chatty on the app, so I don’t know how well the date will even go. But he’s hot (and in finance!) so…
I then messaged the guy who was supposed to be my lunch date to let him know that it looked like I’d actually be free Saturday night and to let me know if he was interested in meeting up.
I took a Lyft to the date ($11.32 after tip). He paid for my two drinks. We had a good time, and I think he’ll work out nicely because he’s also seeing other people.
I got to bed at 12:30 a.m., desperately craving Wendy’s. But it hadn’t been long enough since my last drink to safely get behind the wheel. So I fell asleep instead, feeling sorry for myself.
Total spent: $64.98
I woke up at 4:30 suuuuper hungry. I tried to get back to sleep and when that didn’t work, seriously contemplated staying up until Cracker Barrel opened at 6 a.m. because I felt that hungry. But instead, I got up and had a little peanut butter and was able to fall back asleep until 9:30 a.m.
I woke up to a “Good morning” message from the guy last night. (But still no word from lunch-date guy or the Bumble guy I’d suggested a Friday date with. Eesh.)
I got up and did some much overdue cleaning. I wiped down both sinks, wiped down the shower stall (after far too long), dusted, poured some bleach in one of the toilets, put away dishes and changed the sheets. All in under an hour. Luckily, the place just doesn’t get that dirty with just one person.
Cracker Barrel French toast and biscuits with apple butter were calling to me with their siren song. Unfortunately, biscuits no longer come with breakfast. (I guess people were abusing the “free biscuits” things and not ordering actual food. Lovely.) So the total after tip was $16.69. Ouch.
I was super full — since I paid for the biscuits, I figured I’d better get my money’s worth right? — so I lay on the bed digesting and playing on Bumble. Ended up talking to two promising guys for most of the afternoon.
Around 6:30 p.m. a guy from Bumble texted me and we agreed we’d get together. I rushed to start getting ready while we finalized a place and time. And… right before finalizing a time, he stopped responding. But not before I’d already taken an energy pill. Lovely.
So I was super alert until around midnight. I ended up getting Wendy’s ($8.12) around 10 p.m. At midnight I climbed into bed, only to have one of the Bumble dudes come back online. We ended up chatting on the phone. Until 1:30 a.m. Gah.
Total spent: $24.81
I woke up at 7:30 a.m. Why????
I sent a one-sentence text to the guy from the night before whining about being up that early.
I gave up and got out of bed at 9 a.m. and did some work on the blog. I was still waiting to hear back about a time from the guy who was supposed to come over for a movie (the guy from Monday’s date who I met at a bar). I had a feeling I was getting flaked on. Again.
And no response to my early-morning text to the previous night’s guy. Not a good sign. Surely, a single text after a day spent messaging back and forth isn’t enough to freak a dude out. Right? Right??? (Spoiler alert: Wrong.)
At 1:30 p.m. the movie-guy texted to say he wasn’t feeling well and asked if we could reschedule. I told him it wasn’t an issue and to just text me when he feels like hanging out. Not sure if I’ll hear from him again, but at this point… Whatever.
I probably should’ve left well enough alone given the lack of response from last night’s guy. But the dude was practically rhapsodizing about how attracted he was to me and was excited that we wanted the same thing (nothing too serious but not just a hookup either). So I sent a text saying that I knew it was last minute but was he available to meet up?
At 4:30 p.m. I still hadn’t gotten any word and was pretty sure I’m not going to hear from the guy again.
A friend was having a grill, so I went to that. I brought some grapes as a contribution, which were $1.22. Unfortunately, I was exhausted from lack of sleep, so I went home after a couple of hours and was in bed at 7:30 p.m. I was asleep by 8 p.m.
And awake at 11 p.m. Argh. I didn’t fall back asleep until 1 a.m.
Total spent: $1.22
Woke up late because my iPad (aka my alarm clock) was dead. Oops. I rushed to get through the emails. Still no text from Saturday night’s rhapsodizing dude. I was very, very sick of how easily spooked men apparently are. Actually, at this point I was actively angry, frankly.
I hate playing games like waiting to answer/initiate texts. It’s exhausting and BS and given that I’m very clear that I don’t want commitment. So I think I should be able to be pretty straight forward with these guys. But apparently not, and that’s ridiculous. I decided maybe I need a break from dating apps.
So of course, as soon as I got bored, I got on the apps and swiped a bunch. Human interaction is highly desirable when you work from home. And/or the compulsion to be flattered by pretty men’s attention, I guess.
I ended up talking to several guys, and I even set up a date for the following day. Still trying to nail down a couple more things before I set up dates with the rest of the guys. We’ll see how many pan out, I guess.
I didn’t feel great thanks to my weird sleep, so I had to skip working out again. In fact, I spent most of my spare time lying back down. I couldn’t really sleep, but resting at all was helpful.
I went to bed at 8ish, but I was chatting with a few people so I fell asleep around 9:30 p.m.
This time, I only woke up for one hour in the middle of the night. Progress I guess?
Total spent: $0
Still wasn’t feeling great when I woke up, so I spent most of the day answering emails and then lying down. I talked to a promising guy on Bumble for part of the day, and we set up a date for Wednesday.
I went on a date with a 28 year old, a guy from Egypt, who was a fun time. We chatted and laughed and played pool. I’d definitely see him again, so we’ll see if he asks. I paid $9.84 for the Lyft to the bar.
I went to bed around 8:30 but lay there until after 10:30 before finally dozing off. Then I woke up from 12:30 a.m. until at least 3 a.m. I’m calling my doctor in the morning about going back on Temazepam. Unfortunately, I don’t want to be on it long term because it’s a benzo. For now, though, I need to retrain my body (or my brain, anyway) to sleep through the night.
Total spent: $9.84
I woke up bleary-eyed, but got up and answered all of the emails. Then I lay back down. But I couldn’t sleep. At 9 a.m. I made an appointment with my doctor for the following day to talk about Temazepam.
At 10 a.m., I sent a message to the guy I was supposed to see, asking if we were still on. After an hour with no response, I started to lose heart. I’m getting very sick of how flaky Bumble guys are.
I spent most of the day lying down when I wasn’t answering emails. Still couldn’t sleep though. So of course, I got on Bumble and played around.
Oh, and the guy who didn’t answer me on Sunday had texted me overnight to say “Sorry I didn’t respond earlier, but I think it’s understandable.” Puh-leez.
I replied with a probably-too-long text basically saying that I thought he was misconstruing my texting frequency because I text a lot because I’m bored. No deeper meaning. Also, I pointed out that if I don’t want commitment, I shouldn’t have to play ridiculous games like waiting to text back or not texting first so as not to show too much interest. In the end, I told him, hey if you want to meet, great. If you don’t, no biggie. I won’t text you again. (I don’t expect to hear back if he’s that easily spooked.)
Around 11 a.m. I got a text from Friday’s guy seeing if I was available. I told him I allegedly had a date, but it looked like he was flaking. He told me to keep him updated.
Sure enough, the alleged date never got back to me. So I texted Friday’s guy, and we agreed to see each other at 4 p.m. He’s a pretty cool guy. He even laughed at/agreed with a short rant I went on about how silly it was that these guys have been spooking so easily.
Speaking of which, haven’t heard back from Egyptian guy. I sent him a text shortly after he dropped me off saying I’d had fun and hoped to see him again. Perhaps that was too soon, but eh… As annoyingly rare as they seem, I’d rather find a guy who doesn’t freak out over a woman who’s straight forward. Even if that means a lot of hassle in the meantime. Point being, I’ll be surprised if I hear back from him. Sigh.
I parted with Friday’s guy (maybe I should start calling him “the one reasonable guy”?) around 6:30 p.m. and was starving. So I went by Barro’s and picked up some pizza and cinnamon sticks ($19.99). I’m tremendously over-budget in the takeout category. Ugh.
Total spent: $19.99
Total spent: $122.84 ($117.84 out of weekly funds)
Wow, a super cheap week! Unfortunately, some of this was because I didn’t go on as many dates as hoped for. But… I’ll take the win I guess.