These spending diaries are a way for me to be more cognizant of my spending. They’re also a peek into my daily life for those who care.
For those who are new, my style of “spending” is a little convoluted. I have two checking accounts. I keep the majority of my money in the secondary account, transferring $280 a week into the main account. But I charge everything to the card to maximize rewards. As charges accrue, I transfer money out of the main account into the secondary one. Then I make a weekly payment on my credit card.
A tad confusing, perhaps, but it works for me. Anyway, here’s how spending went this week:
I woke up feeling very rested. I got through emails quickly and chatted with my Twitter friend who’s also navigating online dating. The first guy she met off the app had texted her again — even though she’d made it pretty clear she wasn’t interested in meeting up again, as it didn’t go well. I guess he figured perseverance would win the day?
Apparently, AZDHS changed the way it was reporting new cases. It was now reporting positive antigen PCR tests. According to friends who understand science terms far better than I (because I initially thought this meant anyone who tested positive for antibodies at all), the news means they’re including asympomatic people. Which… how were those not being counted already???
At any rate, I still assumed this was a blip, especially with a backlog of cases from ASU just being reported. I hoped I’d prove right.
I had a doctor appointment at 1 p.m. Unfortunately, he’d moved offices. He was almost 10 miles farther away, and the drive now took 25 minutes instead of 10. Ugh.
On the way back, I filled up the tank ($24.64 plus $1.10 in saved savings from grocery store gas rewards).
The rest of the day was very quiet. I finished up work, watched TV and played on social media. I was in bed around 9 p.m. and asleep by 10 p.m.
Total spent: $25.74
I woke up a little before my alarm. When I wake up without the alarm, it seems like I feel more refreshed. Kind of odd, but I guess maybe it has to do with REM cycles? I’m not being interrupted mid-cycle by noise? Who knows.
I spent the morning dealing with emails and messaging with friends. The 26 year old was moving across town (actually to the suburb Tempe) so I didn’t text him because I didn’t want to interrupt.
I worked out at 1 p.m. It was super not-fun. But at least I did it.
I finished up work and… At 5 p.m. I found out Ruth Bader Ginsburg had died. I was crushed. I commiserated with some people online, and a friend from the trivia group suggested we do some outdoor distanced drinking. One other friend was amenable and said we could come to her place.
It was tempting, but I didn’t want to do something that would mean I couldn’t meet the 26 year old for another two weeks. So I messaged him (apologizing for bugging him while he was trying to move) and asked for his thoughts.
By the time he got back to me saying he was fine with it, I’d actually decided not to go. I have a hard time telling when I’m completely sober when I drink hard alcohol — and this definitely called for hard alcohol — and I couldn’t exactly Uber there or crash for the night.
One other person was worried about exposure, and another person had just eaten inside a restaurant. So we decided to just do a Zoom call later.
I went to the grocery store and got a ton of candy, more ginger beer (for the Moscow mules) and a couple of other things for a total of $19.32. Then I came home and had a drink and ate candy and generally felt horrible about the future.
At 8 p.m. we got on the Zoom call and talked about how awful this was and just life in general. But apparently I hadn’t had enough water before I started drinking because after only two mules and a few sips of a third, I started feeling hot and a little nauseated. Meaning I was probably on the verge of dehydration.
We’d been talking for two hours at that point, so I signed off, turned down the thermostat from 80 to 76 and lay under a ceiling fan and in front of an oscillating fan, trying to sip water and not feel sick. I started feeling better about 40 minutes later, and about half an hour after that I pushed the thermostat back up to 78, but left it there for the night so that I didn’t sweat and dehydrate more.
Unfortunately, it took me until after 1:30 a.m. to actually fall asleep for some reason. It didn’t help that the muscle on the side of one calf felt very tight and when I tried to flex it, it started cramping. So I had to massage it — multiple times — to get it to stop. Whee.
Total spent: $19.32
I woke up at 9 a.m. and couldn’t get back to sleep, even though I didn’t have enough rest. So I stumbled out, turned the thermostat back to 80, filled my water bottle and made sure I drank plenty from it.
I felt super wasteful, but I couldn’t keep the remaining candy in the house, so other than an unopened bag of Swedish fish, which I stowed in the guest room closet to try to forget about it, I threw away all the partially full containers and took out the trash. If the candy were in the house, I’d eat it, and I didn’t have anyone I could give it to. So… trash.
At 10 a.m. I FaceTimed with Mom for almost two hours talking about the general state of things, life updates, etc. Then I chatted with friends for about half an hour.
Between sleeping in and the long video call, I’d missed enough of the small meals I eat throughout the day that I could justify the calories in takeout. So I got some of that ($9.34 on the card plus $1 in walking around money).
I was too tired to workout or even do any real work on the blog. So the rest of the day was spent mainly just watching TV. Unfortunately, I did not forget about the Swedish fish. But oh well.
I started getting ready for bed around 8:30 p.m. and was asleep by 9:30 p.m.
Total spent: $10.34 ($9.34 out of weekly funds)
I woke up at 8:30 a.m. feeling whole again. So I got to work on the blog, which took me until almost 12:30 p.m.
For the first half hour, I was also messaging back and forth with a friend who needed to vent about home life stress, so that slowed me down some. But mainly it was because the post I had mostly written was a rant post. And after I started adding to it and polishing it as I went, I realized that it was just too long to be so pointless.
So I had to start a new post, dip my toe in the rant pool, and then move on to actual at least vaguely substantive stuff. So by the time I was done that and had scheduled it and the accompanying social media posts for the next day, it was almost time for my workout. Sigh.
I got through that and then mainly chilled out for the rest of the day. I chatted a bit with friends, but mostly just watched Nurse Jackie.
I did make some rice and beans since I was craving it. But otherwise nothing of note happened except that one side of my neck was very, very tight. So I had to work on that for a while.
I called it a night at 9 p.m. and was asleep by 10 p.m.
Total spent: $0
I got up and got through emails within an hour. Then was bored.
Working on my neck the night before was a bad call. It was now very tender, and I still had a massage that day. And there was still a rather nasty knot, so it was going to be very uncomfortable to get it worked on.
I texted the 26 year old good morning. He was pretty quiet on weekends, especially this weekend, since he was getting settled in his new place.
At 10 a.m., I went to Big 5 to pick up some new workout shoes. I was noticing some knee pain with the current ones, which is usually a sign that I need new ones. I paid $23.88 for a new pair.
I also stopped at the bank to get out $20 in walking around money, as I had to tip the masseuse at my massage later. Speaking of which, the monthly auto-charge hit my card for $50.
These three expenses together meant that I had to start a new financial week, but the previous one had lasted 9 days. So that wasn’t too bad.
On the way home, I stopped at Bank of America to pay my mortgage. Thanks to all the COVID relief stuff, wait times to pay by phone have been horrendous. Last time, I was on hold for an hour. And for reasons too long to explain here, I can’t make online payments anymore. Sigh.
Despite it being only 10:30 a.m. the bank was relatively busy. There were three people standing around outside. Apparently, there were already six customers in line, which was the maximum for the tellers. It only took me about five or seven minutes to get inside, but I guess all of the transactions were very involved because I had to wait more than 15 minutes in line. Eesh.
I came home and answered the emails that had come in. Then I lay down as I wasn’t feeling great. I couldn’t sleep, but just resting all my muscles by lying flat did help.
At 1 p.m. my masseuse messaged to say she was having some stomach issues and had to go home. We rescheduled for the following Tuesday. But I’d really been looking forward to some in-person interaction. I was feeling very bored and very isolated after the weekend.
The 26 year old texted back. He had seen my message earlier and then promptly forgot to text back. It happens but ouch. He was exhausted from the move, so he wasn’t terribly chatty.
Shortly thereafter I started crying. Partway through I realized that, other than a few point-of-sale transactions (and I mainly do self-checkout at the grocery store), I hadn’t talked to anyone in person in three weeks. So I guess I was counting on that massage even more than I thought.
I curled up on the bed and let it out, and a friend happened to message back during that time. I told her what was going on, and she offered a video or phone chat. But once I start crying sporadically, I don’t like to talk live because, uh, it’s embarrassing. So I thanked her but told her maybe later.
After about an hour, I moved from teary to weary and quasi-apathetic. Which was better than the previous stage, I guessed, so I decided to just get through the day until it was a reasonable bedtime. Then bid the day adieu.
The 26 year old and another friend messaged, so I chatted a bit with both, which helped my mood. As did the two new episodes of Archer. I then started Atlanta, and I started getting ready for bed around 9 p.m. I was asleep before 10 p.m.
Total spent: $93.88
I got up and got through emails, then messaged with friends and kept an eye on the inbox.
The 26 year old had said previously he might be able to come over that night, but he’d had a migraine last night and had barely slept. I think we’re doomed.
I had been reading up on the flu shot. When I got out of the hospital 23 years ago, they told me to never get the flu shot. But I knew more studies had been done recently. So a few days back I’d looked those up. It looks like per 1 million people vaccinated with the flu shot, there are 1-2 “extra” cases of Guillain-Barre Syndrome. But 17 out of every million people who get GBS get it from the flu. So it seemed like probability-wise it might make more sense to get it. But I don’t have a neurologist to check with, and I doubted I could get a referral to ask a single question.
So I’d left a message the night before in a GBS Facebook group to see if anyone else had gotten more recent guidance. The 42 answers consisted of multiple people answering with one of the following:
- Doctor said to never get ANY more vaccines
- Doctor said to never get the flu shot, other vaccines are fine
- Doctor said the flu shot is okay, as long as it’s not what triggered the GBS in the first place.
- The vaccine pamphlet said specifically not to get it (so I might not even be able to get one)
Two people chimed in that they’d been getting the flu shot for years and been fine. Three spoke up to say they got it and had a flare of symptoms. One woman experienced them for five months.
So… that clears that up? Someone pointed out that with all the social distancing and masks, this year the flu could be less prevalent in general. So maybe I’ll put off the decision until next year.
A friend was having major relationship drama so I spent a lot of time messaging back and forth, mainly just listening but also talking about things she needs to think about and ask herself. They’ve been together for 10 years, so I think — even with the lack of sustained change on his part thus arguments about the same thing over and over — she’s likely going to stay with him. But hopefully she’ll prioritize herself at some point.
I… don’t miss relationships.
Oh, and he said that he needed to get the car repairs done that specific day because it was the last day of his card’s 0% promotion. So… apparently at 50 he doesn’t understand how credit card offers work.
Did I mention I don’t miss relationships?
My friend needed to vent up through my usual workout time, so I saved it until 3 p.m. At some point, I’m hoping to go back to merely disliking the workout rather than loathing it. I’m so out of the exercise routine that I’m now dripping with sweat by the time I’m done — and I hadn’t even added leg weights back in.
But anyway, it got done.
I watched Atlanta — which is pretty great — for the rest of the evening and messaged a little with friends. I called it a night at 9 p.m. and was asleep by 10 p.m.
Total spent: $0
I woke up, got through emails pretty quickly and checked in on my friend from the night before. Her fiance works nights and hadn’t called during his break like he normally does. And in the morning was, in her words, “pouting” so they didn’t talk then either.
A scientist friend on Twitter saw my tweet complaining about the variety of advice. She actually knows something about GBS, and she said if she had gotten GBS and it wasn’t from a flu shot, she’d actually be more likely to get the shot.
She also didn’t agree that this year was moot, flu-wise, because flu particles can be even more aerosolized than COVID ones, so our COVID measures may not protect against the flu. Fun.
I paid my water/sewer/trash bill for $60. It was $52.48, but I try to round up a bit for the assistance program. I’ve been super broke before, and those programs really saved me.
I also did a laundry, so $3.50 went into the Washer/Dryer fund.
I heard from the 26 year old. Apparently, his body had just been freaking out in general. He’d googled the symptoms and it wasn’t COVID or dehydration, so he said he’d probably go to a clinic if the issues weren’t gone the next day.
Did I mention that we’re doomed?
The universe does not want me to find a steady setup in 2020. You’d think it’d have better things to do, but nope apparently it’s just hell-bent on throwing up obstacle after obstacle (and previously stupid guy after stupid guy) for my love life.
Also, on a less self-involved noted, I felt bad for the 26 year old. He sounded pretty miserable.
The rest of the day was very, very quiet. I pushed my workout til after I was done work just to help eat up more time. Then I watched Atlanta and tried not to feel sorry for myself from boredom and isolation.
I called it a night around 8:30 p.m. and was in bed by 9:15, but I didn’t fall asleep until some time after 11:30. And I slept very, very fitfully. Whee.
Total spent: $63.50
Total spent:$212.78 ($211.78 out of weekly funds)
While not quite as low-spend as some recent weeks have been, this was still well under budget, so I’m pretty happy. Especially since almost 30% of the total was a utility bill. So it’s not like I was on a spending spree.
How did everyone else’s week go?