For those who are new, my style of “spending” is a little convoluted. I have two checking accounts. I keep the majority of my money in the secondary account, transferring $280 a week into the main account. But I charge everything to the card to maximize rewards. As charges accrue, I transfer money out of the main account into the secondary one. Then I make a weekly payment on my credit card.
A tad confusing, perhaps, but it works for me. Anyway, here’s how spending went this week.
I woke up with my back feeling just about normal. But just to be safe, I spent one more day working in bed with a heating pad keeping my lower back warm most of the time.
I chatted a bit with friends, but most of the workday was spent fielding emails and dealing with my secondary duties. Again, at least this makes the day go by quickly. Though I miss getting paid to work out and/or work on the blog.
The Netflix charge hit my account. The rate appears to have gone up a teeny bit, so it’s now $15.19 a month.
After work, I went back to some designs on my Zazzle store. I was having a lot of fun playing around with designs.
I also checked on the arrival dates for the cards I’d ordered. They were arriving Friday and Saturday. So I went ahead and finally bought the chocolate for the second friend I wanted to send a gift to ($26.95). I had them shipped directly to her, so the gift and the card would arrive separately, but oh well.
The gift meant that I finally had to start a new financial week — after a whopping 14 days. Being housebound turned out to be pretty frugal, I guess.
Around 5:45 p.m. Aaron let me know he could come see me after his training was done at 6 p.m. So I got ready, and he showed up around 7 p.m. It had been two weeks since we saw each other, so it was nice to finally be in the same room.
We picked up some Indian food, which Aaron paid for. We went to bed around 10 p.m. and fell asleep around 11.
Total spent: $32.14
Aaron took off around 8 a.m. Work was decently busy, but nothing crazy.
The workday sort of passed in a haze. I did a couple of follow-up emails on some cases that I didn’t think were resolved correctly. Hopefully, I’ll hear back.
After work, I messaged with friends off and on. Having bought my Valentine’s Day gifts for two friends I thought needed it, it occurred to me that maybe — just maybe — I should’ve contemplated something for Aaron? Oops.
Also, the previous night he’d made a passing comment about getting a card for me and one for my friend whose relationship just ended. It’s a sweet sentiment, but I have no idea how serious he was or whether that meant we were exchanging gifts for Valentine’s Day.
So I started doing Internet searches for gift guides for small Valentine’s Day gifts. Unique Gifter even has a gift guide specifically for casual relationships, god love her. The ideas were pretty cool, but none quite suited Aaron.
However, about 40 seconds into that post, I saw a loely and dainty opal necklace, which distracted me and I spent literally two hours looking at Etsy opal necklaces and debating a particular one with my friend Leila and measuring my neck to even see what length I’d need.
I felt like I was being manipulated by the Etsy’s message that only one was left. That was true of every length of necklace, so I think the seller was just smart and only listed one at a time.
So I closed those windows. But still wondered what length of necklace would be good for those purposes — Did I want to layer them? So Leila and I debated that, then talked about how we liked layered necklaces, but the expense was always too much for the nice ones.
Thus I naturally started searching for those — remember when this was about Aaron? — to get a feel for whether finally trying the look would be affordable. And fell upon pretty great one from Free People for only $19.95. I grabbed it and paid $21.67 after tax.
I finally got back to looking for stuff for Aaron — by scrolling through Etsy Valentine’s Day listings. Most were about love or clearly for married folks. But I finally found a keychain that reads “I hope your day is as nice as my butt.”
I figured that would make him laugh — he’s a big fan — and it was only $11.94. So I’ll have it on hand on Valentine’s Day in case he does get me something. If not, it’s small enough to be a good “just cuz” present.
I watched some TV the rest of the night and then started working on my Zazzle stuff again. I didn’t start until 8 p.m., which I knew was a bad idea, and sure enough I wasn’t able to stop until midnight. Sigh. I was asleep before 1 a.m. Small mercies.
Total spent: $33.61
I woke up at 8:30 a.m. and it was my overtime weekend. Thankfully, I got through all of the emails before I had to leave at 9:30 to get my new contacts. Which took far longer than expected because they wanted to test the fit and how well I saw in them, etc.
So I didn’t get back until 11 a.m. But I caught up quickly on work and then went to get the mail. The first two Zazzle cards I’d ordered were there and they were… imperfect. But it was a minor imperfection and USPS delivery times are all over the place. So I decided to keep them and just fix the design for future reference.
For the rest of the day, I just answered emails as they came in and worked on another card.
Midday I got to see the first pics and video of the kittens Aaron had adopted that day. They were completely adorable, as expected.
I got various videos off and on throughout the day, including one video call where he was eating dinner but giving me a play-by-play of what the kittens were doing. Yup, definitely officially a pet owner.
I messaged off and on with my friend who’s in the middle of a breakup called. Things are tense — she actually left the house for a while and just sat in the park talking to her mom on the phone — so we talked about that and I of course forwarded her all kitten pics/video to cheer her up.
I ended up starting to get ready for bed around 8 p.m., but I kept stopping and messaging with the friend. So I finally got in bed a little after 9, but I was asleep by 10.
Total spent: $0
Around 7:45 a.m. Josie climbed on me and made a weird smacking noise with her tongue that she does sometimes, and while I was able to ignore it and doze for a bit, I finally got up and fed her.
Then I started work, but there was more breakup drama to be discussed, so I’d answer a few emails, then read the message and respond, then answer a few more emails. Long story short, it took me longer than it should’ve to get caught up.
I did two loads of laundry, so I put $7 into the Washer/Dryer fund.
By then, it was time to FaceTime with Mom. We chatted for around 90 minutes before finally admitting we should have been doing work and blogging. So I hung up and wrote the next day’s blog post.
It was around 3:30 p.m. at that point, so I just played around with a design on Zazzle and, of course, fielded emails as they came in.
After 7 p.m., my workday was over, so I watched Netflix and kept dinking around on Zazzle.
By 8 p.m., I couldn’t make myself eat anything in the house and had eaten only 600 calories in the 12 hours I’d been up. So I went and got a chicken and rice takeout dish. I used a gift card, so I put $9.83 into the Saved Savings account.
I called it a night around 9:30, but ended up chatting with a friend for a bit. So I didn’t settle in til 11. Happily, I fell asleep quickly.
Total spent: $16.83
I got up and got through work, then checked the blog. I had been slacking on it lately, and I wanted to start concentrating on it again.
Aaron sent me video of the kittens being adorable and he showed me in real time on a video call later. They were really bonding with him. It was pretty cute.
My friend in the midst of the breakup messaged midafternoon with more ridiculousness from her now-ex. We commiserated and I begged her to stop engaging except when absolutely necessary. Thankfully, due to schedule differences, they only see each other on weekends, so that makes it easier.
I finished the workday and did a couple of new designs for the Zazzle store. Aaron called again around 6 p.m. but mainly just chatted about the kittens.
My friend from earlier confirmed she was home, so I dropped off the chocolate and Galentine’s Day card I’d decided to give her earlier. She was delighted, which was nice.
Around 7 p.m. I turned on Netflix but kept playing at Zazzle. At 9:40 p.m., I finally tore myself away and got ready for bed.
Total spent: $0
I woke up and got straight to answering emails, which were light. But the rest of my work took me most of the morning to catch up on.
I was chatting with a friend and just felt inexplicably teary. Just sorta overwhelmed and like I was on the verge of crying. Which was strange. But it also make me grumpy because when my feelings are out of control, my first worry is that my depression is coming back.
Aaron videocalled and has yet to learn that “You look tired.” is never going to be something I take well. But given that I was trying to handle my emotions, I was a bit snippy. Especially since, he followed up “You look tired” with “Or maybe upset? Are you okay?”
I said I was fine but ultimately admitted I felt like I was on the verge of tears. He asked if I was going to take a nap and I asked how, exactly, that would help. I wasn’t nasty, but I was gruff. He said he had a meeting and had to go.
My friend and I pontificated whether this was PMS (my cycle is out of whack, so maybe?) or just a pandemic emotional wall or what. And how the couple of days I’d been feeling out of sorts about Aaron, and she suggested it was probably just that visits have been sporadic for a bit and I was feeling out of it overall. Which was probably true.
I messaged Aaron an apology for my responses and said he didn’t deserve that. I explained that I wasn’t completely sure what was causing it but that I’d be monitoring my mood to see whether I should talk to my psychiatrist about upping a dosage when I see him later this month.
He wrote back thanking me for the apology. Apparently, I’d kind of ticked him off, so he said he appreciated the message.
I went back to work and finished out the day.
My appetite had been off. It could be another symptom of depression, but it’s more likely just that my stomach is pouting because it does get tasty junk food anymore. I told myself to keep an eye on it, but I still didn’t end up eating much during the day.
I played around with more designs on Zazzle and then watched a little Netflix before calling it a night. But the teariness hit again as I was getting ready to go to bed. I just let myself cry it out — thankfully it was short — and decided I needed to get back to my routine and get the house in order. It often helps keep me in line.
Unfortunately, I didn’t fall asleep until probably 11 pm.
Total spent: $0
I woke up around 5 a.m. and gave up on sleep at 5:45. Before starting on emails, I finally made myself step on the scale. Not great — about 15 lbs heavier than I wanted — but not as bad as I thought.
After going through emails and some other work stuff, I finally got tired enough that I was able to lie down and doze for a bit. I woke up feeling a little better.
I took care of the emails that had come in, did some other work duties and then got started on cleaning up some dishes, running the Roomba and putting away laundry.
I still felt a little fragile emotionally, but not as much as the day before. So that was something. In and around emails, I worked a little bit in Zazzzle on a new card. After work, I was tired from lack of sleep, so I lay down in bed and messaged.
Aaron checked in to see how I was. He asked if I wanted to come over, though not until 6:30. Normally, he comes to me, but the kittens are still being trained to be in their carrier for any length of time.
I told him yes I definitely wanted to swing by. Besides needing to be less isolated and wanting to spend time with him in general, I’d get to play with the kittens!!! Totally work the 20-mile drive.
He was putting together a cat tree when I got there. I played with the kittens, mainly with the laser pointer and a dancer, but they did climb up on the couch and let me pet them for a bit.
Because right about now I think we all need adorable video in our lives, here’s a tweet that has footage in it. (I tried to get it embedded here but nope…) You don’t need a Twitter account to view it.
After he was done the tree, we ordered some takeout. I paid this time ($30.48) and on the way, we stopped at Walgreens so I could get a contact lens case (my new contacts came in vials that were hard to use) and he could get some throat drops. I paid for both: $7.33.
It was nearly 9 p.m. by the time we were done eating. so I got into bed shortly thereafter. But we didn’t fall asleep until at least 11. It was probably later.
Total spent: $37.81
Total spent: $120.39
Another low-spend week! Though I think part of that is from not seeing Aaron, since I pay for takeout every other time. So maybe it’s not as good as it initially looks. But still, it’s always nice to do well on spending.