For those who are new, my style of “spending” is a little convoluted. I have two checking accounts. I keep the majority of my money in the secondary account, transferring $280 a week into the main account. But I charge everything to the card to maximize rewards. As charges accrue, I transfer money out of the main account into the secondary one. Then I make a weekly payment on my credit card.
A tad confusing, perhaps, but it works for me. Anyway, here’s how spending went this week.
I had a 9 a.m. doctor appointment, and I had to get home from Aaron’s (a 30-45 minute drive, depending on traffic) and catch up on emails first. So the alarm went off at 6 a.m. But since we had fallen asleep so late, we didn’t get up right away. I left around 6:45 a.m. and got home around 7:20 a.m.
I caught up on emails and was partway through my other work when I had to leave for the doctor. I got home from that around 10 a.m., caught up on emails, finished the other work I was doing and then just chilled out and messaged with friends in between new emails coming in.
The necklace I’d found on sale showed up and it was lovely. Especially for under $22 after tax.
Aaron called around noon to see if the previous night’s visit to him and the kittens had helped with the recent depression. Which it had, thankfully.
I finished up the workday, and I went to drop off my prescription. But they told me that particular item wasn’t in stock and I should check other stores because it was on backorder.
I hadn’t had much to eat, which I’m trying to stop doing, so I got some chicken and rice takeout. Not the healthiest but better than fast food. I paid with a gift card, so $9.83 went into Saved Savings.
I came home and ate, then rested a bit. Finally, I had enough energy to go back out. Thankfully, the second pharmacy I went to was getting a shipment in the next day. So I dropped off the prescription and went home.
By that point, I was pretty weary from insufficient sleep. So I watched TV in the bedroom and did a new design for the Zazzle store.
Unfortunately, I then decided to do some variations on that design, and so it was suddenly 11:30 p.m. I got ready for bed quickly and was asleep shortly after midnight.
Total spent: $9.83
I got up and was caught up on work stuff in about two hours. I was messaging with a friend about therapy stuff since she’s recently started. She’s trying the text-based approach, so it’s interesting to see how that’s going.
The monthly Banfield plan charge hit my account for $33.95.
Aaron videocalled around noon and we chatted a little. He said he was probably going on a long hike Saturday, but he could probably see me either Saturday night or Sunday. I promised him only 20% of my interest in seeing him was the kittens. Well, 30% tops.
Finally, the workday ended. I was relieved. Thanks to my monthly overtime weekend, I had worked the last 12 days straight.
I just chilled out, messaged with a friend and played more on Zazzle. I was so absorbed, I didn’t even think to turn on the TV until 7 p.m. That’s huge for me, as I usually at least have it on in the background unless I’m working or writing a blog post.
I didn’t start getting ready for bed until 11:30 p.m. so I wasn’t in bed until midnight. Oops. Happily, I fell asleep quickly.
Total spent: $33.95
I woke up at 9:30 a.m. still feeling a little tired. I did a little cleaning, but mainly relaxed. I (surprise surprise) did some designing on Zazzle. (I will do a post soon with links and such, I swear.) I also looked for an update from my friend going through the breakup, since her now-ex was supposed to look at a place that day.
Aaron called around noon to say he’d really enjoyed his hike. We chatted a bit and agreed to see each other the following day.
Otherwise, I just played on Zazzle, then took a break to figure out my monthly money numbers. Then back to Zazzle and I turned on Netflix.
I needed a few small things from the grocery store, so I ran there around 7:30 p.m. It was $10.23, plus $2.93 went into Saved Savings.
I turned off the TV around 10:30 p.m., planning to go to bed. But I got caught up in a couple designs. In the end, I got to bed around 11:45.
My friend still hadn’t messaged and I had a bad feeling. So I messaged to say I hoped she was just holing up, but if the guy had finally and magically found the right things to say to reopen discussion of the relationship, I’d support her.
I didn’t fall asleep until around 2 a.m. Sigh.
Total spent: $13.16
Josie woke me up around 8 a.m. by crawling on me and then, after settling further down on the bed, making a smacking sound with her tongue until I finally got up and fed her.
I dozed back off and woke up around 10:30. At bedtime the night before, I had noticed a couple of design issues on some products I had published the day before, so I spent about 45 minutes fixing three cards.
Then I made myself stop and double check my money math, since this month was a bit of a mess.
My friend messaged me, and she was plagued by doubt about ending the relationship. They’d had a productive talk (finally), etc. I wrote a message back that took so long and took so much editing that I looked up and it was an hour later.
I hit send and then moved the money around per the double-checked money math. It was 1 p.m. by then, and I hadn’t heard from Aaron yet. So I messaged to say hi. He wrote back not too long after.
Then I started on my monthly money post. Midway through, Aaron messaged to say he was feeling out of it and emotionally a little off-balance. We talked a little, but clearly he wasn’t going to want to come over as planned. I asked whether he’d eaten recently and was he hydrated, but I didn’t hear back for a bit.
I finished the post and eventually heard back from Aaron and yeah, the previous day he had eaten… a fish fillet. Gee, I wonder why he felt off. I swear, healthy people are somehow the worst at keeping up their health.
So he ate something and took a nap, and we didn’t really talk much after that. My friend dealing with the breakup was having second, third and fourth thoughts. So we talked about that and I did some designing and watched Netflix.
I got ready for bed around 9:30 p.m. but couldn’t fall asleep until after 11.
Total spent: $0
So of course I woke up at around 5 a.m. I couldn’t get back to sleep so I got caught up on emails and then lay back down when I felt I could finally doze again. I woke up feeling much more human.
Unfortunately, Aaron messaged to say that he had been woken up twice in the middle of the night by people reporting that his company’s system wasn’t generating the reports it was supposed to. So he had woken up late himself and had to fix the issue by the end of the day.
So that pretty much ruled out seeing each other that day — and he had to get the reports run and submitted correctly the day after. Eesh.
I bought a couple of items at Target. ($37.13) I really do love the drive-up option.
Work was low-key so I putzed around until I could go to Target. Afterward, I picked up some takeout with the gift card ($9.83 into Saved Savings). That friend and I did a lot of back and forth about her now feeling crummy about the breakup and hoping they could work things out after he got back from a trip. Or I guess two weeks after he gets back.
I was not a proponent of this — there are very good reasons she broke up with him — but she was in the mode of defending the hope for the future if they both did better and were better to each other. I messaged back and forth the rest of the evening, increasingly exasperated.
This stuff was playing on some issues from my own past, I knew, so I needed to back away and set some boundaries. But that wasn’t happening that night. And my brain then fixated on that and other things so that I found myself sending her a long message at 2 a.m. because I couldn’t sleep because my brain wouldn’t stop.
I thought getting it all out would let my brain shut up. It did not.
Total spent: $46.96
I ended up giving up on sleep around 5 a.m. and starting work two hours early so I could nap later. I worked from bed, though, as I suspected sitting up would take too much energy.
I haven’t involuntarily stayed up all night that I can think of, so I decided the inability to shut off my brain was likely a symptom of a manic episode.
Thankfully, I felt perfectly normal otherwise, but since I’ve been struggling anyway (and more calories hadn’t helped much) this pretty much clinched it for my question of whether to increase the dosage on one of my meds. I can always try going back down when the world is a little less isolated and scary.
Aroundn 6 a.m., I did finally get too exhausted to stay awake. So I got about 3.5 hours’ rest, at which point I had to catch up on work and then address my friend addressing my message. We went back and forth about that, but I had already decided I should start backing off — for me and for her — when she confirmed that my reminders of ways he had fallen (far, far) short of being a decent partner weren’t helping and she just had to sort this out on her own.
So I agreed to jump off the “he sucks” track and just let her think do some introspection about their bad communication, whether she wanted him or the idealized version, etc etc. All things that she’s very right that she needs to figure out to make an informed decision about whether there’s a chance for them.
A bunch of work came in, so that kept me busy for most of the rest of the day.
After work, I was hungry but not really safe to drive, so I ordered pizza and cinnamon sticks ($36.21) and then just ate, worked on some Zazzle designs and watched TV until 8 p.m. I got into bed shortly before 9 p.m. and was asleep around 10.
Total spent: $36.21
Total spent: $140.11
Another relatively low spend week! Of course, this is mainly due to having nowhere to go and nothing to do but… At least the silver lining is that very little money was spent. Wednesday actually ended my “financial week” — after 12 days.
The $280 amount is from back when Tim was in the picture, thus it’s much higher than I really need. But I’ve just been avoiding figuring out a more realistic amount. Partially because, ick, work; but also because it’s really an ego-boost to have your financial “week” last at least nine days almost every time. A faux sense of accomplishment, but nice nonetheless. Still, it’s getting silly and I really need to work on it — once the higher dosage kicks in.
How did everyone else’s week go?