For those who are new, my style of “spending” is a little convoluted. I have two checking accounts. I keep the majority of my money in the secondary account, transferring $250 a week into the main account. But I charge everything to the card to maximize rewards. As charges accrue, I transfer money out of the main account into the secondary one. Then I make a weekly payment on my credit card.
A tad confusing, perhaps, but it works for me. Anyway, here’s how spending went this week.
I woke up a bit groggy but got through my work okay and had pepped up a bit. I was excited for the first even for my MeetUp group that evening. Plus I had a haircut, which is always nice — especially after 2020 allowing for so few of them.
Aaron videocalled in late morning and said he wanted to see me. I told him he could come to trivia, since it was downtown, so about equidistant from our places. But he said he was going to be weary after work and his workout that morning. But that if I wanted to come by, he’d wait up. I told him I’d see.
The workday was a bit of a blur even though it wasn’t all that busy. I think that was probably because I was just looking forward to the later activities.
I got a haircut, which was on special, so it was a little cheaper than usual. I had been wanting to try a new product for a few months, so I got the travel size of that since I was saving on the haircut. The total was $29.55.
I drove all the way downtown, parked ($4.85 for three hours at a meter) and got to the bar — only to find out there was a Suns game and trivia had been pre-empted.
I left a message in the event asking if the two people attending (one had had to drop out because he wasn’t feeling well) wanted to try a different location. I went there to check that one out while I waited for a response. That one also had the game booming.
I let them know and apologized profusely for not checking. Excellent first MeetUp, Abby. Sigh.
I messaged Aaron to say I was coming over, which he was happy about. We chilled out most of the night. He had food on hand (not straight-up pork this time, thankfully) but I got some ice cream ($3.45) when we ran a quick errand.
Because I didn’t get there til 7 p.m., we didn’t go to sleep until around 11 p.m.; and I didn’t fall asleep for a bit after that.
Total spent: $37.85 ($34.40 out of weekly funds)
Aaron woke me up in the morning to let me know I’d overslept. I’ve got to start making him set an alarm when I stay over!
I raced home and dealt with a computer that was running even more slowly than usual — and “usual” ain’t great — so I was frantic to get caught up and intermittently full-on yelling at the laptop for about an hour and a half.
I did finally get caught up and fielded emails as they came in, otherwise getting the next day’s spending diary ready to post.
Finally, I was able to lie down, but I couldn’t do more than doze. Even so, that seemed to help a fair amount, and work was quiet. So I took the opportunity to run some Amazon returns to the Kohl’s near me.
I called the optometrist since I hadn’t heard back about the left contact I’d ordered. (Mine had fallen out. It’s such a low prescription I hadn’t even noticed.) It turns out it hadn’t gotten ordered. They said they had to charge me before they ordered it — I guess the fact that they didn’t last time should’ve been a clue — so I paid $99.96. Amounts that large don’t come out of my weekly funds.
I texted with my friend Jen who’d been on a trip for two weeks. So we agreed she’d call that evening so we could catch up.
I went to the grocery store and, since I was determined not to once again eat cheese and crackers, wandered around the store trying to figure out what adults eat. I settled on buying some salads, cherries (on sale at $0.97/lb) and too much candy for $17.67.
I chilled out and watched TV and munched until Jen called around 7. We chatted for more than two hours since we hadn’t really had a chance to talk much recently.
I stayed up and watched TV for a while longer, then I just lay there in bed for a while. So I fell asleep around 1 a.m. Blech.
Total spent: $128.46 ($27.50 out of weekly funds)
I woke up at 11 a.m. feeling very, very rested. I had a board game MeetUp event at 4 p.m., so I just relaxed that morning other than some very light cleaning.
The Banfield charge hit my account for $33.95. And the bi-monthly shipment of my peanut butter (my preferred brand isn’t sold in Phoenix) was charged for $28.75.
I got to the MeetUp event exactly on time, but there were already around 20 15 people there. Yikes!
The 29-year-old guy I’d talked to the previous Sunday showed up. Since I knew the game we were about to play, the host assigned me as the guy’s partner. We did pretty well but didn’t win.
This was a singles event but there was no age limit, so I wasn’t the oldest person at an event for a change. There was a guy around my age, one who looked to be in his late 40s, an attractive lady in her early to mid-50s and a guy who looked to be in his 60s.
After the game, I got up to get some water and order some food at the counter. I chose a margherita pizza for $17.20 after tax and tip. When I got back to the table, people had moved around. So I took a seat by the 60-something.
He introduced himself. Then he asked where I was from, so I reciprocated. The game got underway, but during a brief lull he asked what I did for a living. He said he was an accountant. Not too long after, he asked where in the area I lived. I again asked back.
So I guess I should’ve seen it coming, but I absolutely did not: His next response was an eager, “Abby, I’d really like to see you. Should we exchange phone numbers?”
Look, I know it was a singles event, but no one was flirting. We were just playing games.
Also, I know I’m not in my 20s anymore, but even if he figured out I was in my 40s (most people think I’m mid- to late 30s) I have no idea why he’d think I’d be interested in a sextagenarian, let alone one who looks and dresses like a stereotypical grandpa and with whom I’d exchanged maybe 50 words.
And no, he definitely wasn’t a sugardaddy. He’d have led with that.
Since I’m terrible at anything remotely resembling confrontation, I stretched the truth a bit, saying I was in a murky situation (true with Aaron) and it looked like I was not going to be single soon (definitely not true).
He seemed genuinely surprised that I turned him down. He said that he hoped I got everything I wanted. Which was a weird thing to say to someone you’ve barely talked to.
The game ended not too long after that, and he left shortly thereafter. Guess he expected something very different from the event.
I played a couple more games, then at 8 p.m. I left to meet a friend from my trivia group who had been invited to (and in turn invited me and another gal) to a pool party.
Unfortunately, it had started storming something fierce. I almost turned around and went home because it was raining so hard and there was so much lightning. But I stayed the course, and while very few people showed up, I had a lot of fun. But no one went in the pool, of course.
While we were chatting, I got a MeetUp message from the 29 year old. He complimented me on how well I’d picked up the games, saying he felt dumb (I think he did fine, even ignoring the fact that English is his second language), and said I looked elegant in my red dress. So I was getting age-inappropriate male interest from both sides of the spectrum. Sigh.
We didn’t leave until about 1 a.m., so I wasn’t home until 1:30 and fell asleep about half an hour later.
Total spent: $79.90
Unfortunately, I woke up very soon thereafter with a painfully dry mouth. I was completely stuffed up — which happens at night when I’m dehydrated — so I guess I’d been breathing through my mouth. I got up to get some water and was so dizzy I was staggering a bit. Another sign of dehydration.
Folks, I drained my 22-oz water bottle twice before the board game event, got halfway through a third on my way there, had three glasses of water at the event and two bottled waters at the pool party.
But the restaurant had had its doors open (maybe 30 feet from where I was sitting) so it was pretty warm. And I stayed outside at the pool party for about an hour. But still… c’mon!
I got up, took a decongestant, had some Liquid IV and filled my water bottle, quickly drinking about a third of it. But when I’m tired, my Restless Leg acts up. So I’d barely doze off before I’d wake up with the dry mouth and ooky feelings running up and down my legs. Whee.
So I honestly I have no idea when I finally properly fell asleep. But I woke up around 11 a.m. still exhausted.
I got up and wrote up the next day’s post, then sat around feeling awful and watching TV.
I (barely) got myself out the door to pick up a prescription. But the storm had taken out power lines so the two different routes I tried were blocked off. I gave up and got some groceries ($17.02) from a different store.
Then I came home and went back to TV/feeling awful.
Aaron called around 6 p.m. wanting to do something, but I told him I was exhausted and had to rest up for the next day’s trivia event in Tempe. It was 26 miles from me, so I needed to rest up for the drive/trivia. But we agreed I’d stay over after the event.
I got in bed at 9 p.m. but at 10:30 gave up and took a sleeping pill and finally got some rest.
Total spent: $17.02
The sleeping pill made me oversleep. (Sometimes I turn off my alarm and doze for a few minutes before getting up. This time it was… more than a few minutes.) So I was at a dead run at work until 1 p.m.
I messaged Aaron to see how his day was going and remind him about the event. He said he probably couldn’t make it but would see me afterward.
I was meeting a friend from my old trivia group to chat for a bit and to hand off the bar cash. I was keeper of the cash for the group, since I went to all of the trivia before things imploded with my ex-friend. So I figured they should take it, in case they wanted to do/were already doing trivia with the ex-friend.
I got to the restaurant about five minutes before my friend, but it was still 40 minutes before the event. So we figured we’d have plenty of time to chat. But one guy showed up 15 minutes early (and I’d scheduled it for 30 minutes before trivia started), so we were somewhat cut off.
Still, I was happy he and others came. My friend stuck around so we had six people at the table. We did well, but the other teams were slightly more on point, so we didn’t win any bar cash. But we all had fun and people were chatting. So I was happy.
I had gotten two $4.99 happy hour items, but the waitress was very attentive and groups are never fun for servers. So I tipped $4 for an end total of $14.79.
I got to Aaron’s a little after 8 p.m. We chilled for a bit but were both weary. So we conked out around 10.
Total spent: $14.79
I woke up at 6 a.m. because someone’s loud motor had set off my car alarm. I’ve really got to figure out how to turn the sensitivity down.
I settled back down and dozed a bit but not much and ultimately left around 7:15 a.m.
On the way home, I was craving donuts. Lack of sleep means bad sugar and carb cravings. I stupidly got a dozen because so many sounded good. It was $15.11 after tax and tip.
I came home and got caught up on emails. Then I updated the spending diary for the first time in a few days. Double oops.
I did that and then lay down to rest for a bit before the training session.
I got back up feeling better and finished out the workday. My training session was a bit brutal — tons of squats — but I was glad I did it.
Afterward, I went to CVS and got a prescription ($25.82). I also picked up some hair dye and dry shampoo. The total for those was $10.52, but that’s because I saved with coupons and Extrabux. So an additional $6.10 went into Saved Savings.
Then I went to Fry’s to drop off a prescription and ask them to transfer the one from the blocked-off store. It was apparently still without power.
I went home, dropped everything and grabbed a bra I needed to return to Victoria’s Secret. I’d gotten a strapless bra for my new red dress. I’d gotten two only because there had been a deal and I’d also wanted free shipping, so I returned the second one .
I got the return done and went to the movie theater in the mall because AMC has $5 movies on Tuesday and I wanted to see Black Widow. It was my first movie since early 2020.
The ticket was $6.01, and the popcorn was $9.69 for some popcorn. It was an enjoyable flick, but I’m glad I didn’t pay full price.
I got out of the movie and came home, messaging with friends for a bit. Then I tried on a dress I’d ordered from Amazon. I guess I’m on a spree, but every gal should have a little black dress for various occasions.
I hadn’t taken the money out of weekly funds when I ordered it, since I wasn’t sure if I’d keep it. But since I loved it, I took $32.57 out of weekly funds.
Aaron videocalled right as I was about to send him a pic of me in the dress, so we talked for a while. I started getting ready for bed around 9 and was in bed by 9:30. I fell asleep around 10.
Total spent: $105.82 — owwwww
I woke up to a decent amount of work, so the morning passed relatively quickly.
The workday was pretty quiet after that, so the last few hours dragged a bit. But after work, I rested up for the trivia event that night. I also dyed my hair to get rid of the gray roots.
I drove to the venue, which thankfully was only about 10 minutes away, and got there
I got there about 10 minutes early, but the other two group members (a married couple) beat me there. We chatted until trivia started, and they were fun to talk to. It turns out the woman is semi-interested in the FIRE movement.
I got a drink there for $8.02 after tax and tip.
Trivia went pretty well. I was very on the ball that day for some reason. I genuinely hope they don’t expect that level of competency every time because they won’t get it.
Anyway, with our three brains we managed to come in third. It was only $5 bar cash, but it was a victory nonetheless. They also RSVPed to two more events. Yay!
I came home and went to take the recycling bin from the curb. I’d put it out the day before. But when I went to move it, it still felt full. Which it was. Then I realized I’d put it out on Tuesday instead of Wednesday night.
Did I mention the couple shouldn’t expect me to be smart all the time?
I came home and got ready for bed. I fell asleep around 10 p.m.
Total spent: $8.02
Total spent: $391.86 ($287.45 out of weekly funds)
Well, any way you slice it, this was a bad, bad spending week. And very little of it was mundane or mandatory. But I guess money spent in the vein of getting out more and creating a new social base is money well spent. Still… ouch.
How’d everyone else’s spending go?