For those who are new, my style of “spending” is a little convoluted. I have two checking accounts. I keep the majority of my money in the secondary account, transferring $250 a week into the main account. But I charge everything to the card to maximize rewards. As charges accrue, I transfer money out of the main account into the secondary one. Then I make a weekly payment on my credit card.
A tad confusing, perhaps, but it works for me. Anyway, here’s how spending went this week.
I woke up and got caught up with emails pretty quickly, since I’d done most of them before going to bed the night before.
I caught up on my secondary duties, and then dealt with monthly finances. I’d deposited the check from my employer into my business account. Since I funnel that money into my S-corp (which has me as the sole employee), I had to then write my “employee” paycheck from my business account and deposit that.
I started a load of laundry ($3.50 to the Washer/Dryer fund) and discovered a (ew ew ew ew) dead bird on the patio.
I got a big bag, turned it inside out and used that to pick up the bird. I then threw that in the dumpster in the alley. Sorry for the ignomious disposal, bird but ick ick ick ick.
The charge for Josie’s Banfield plan hit my card for $33.95. I also renewed my AMC Stubs membership for $10.86.
The rest of the workday went pretty slowly. Aaron videocalled for a bit, and after work I killed time for an hour, then got ready to go to trivia. Yay ’80s trivia!
There were only four of us, but we chatted a bit before the event. The other gal there was new to the area and seemed cool.
The trivia was a format I didn’t like — the number of points for an answer decreased the longer you took to enter your response — but we still did surprisingly well. Ah, ’80s pop culture!
We ended up coming in 2nd so we got a $25 gift card. That sounds better than it is. The place is a concert venue as well, so I guess they figure people there are a trapped audience for food because fries were $9.50 and sodas were $10, with cocktails starting at $15 (which is more than most downtown prices). Yikes!
Still, they have other theme trivia nights I’ve scheduled so I guess we can get… two plates of fries?
The event only lasted 90 minutes, so I came home, chatted with Aaron some, watched TV and then got ready for bed. But I kept messaging with a friend even when I lay down, so I didn’t fall asleep until about 11 p.m.
Total spent: $48.31
TGI-freakin-F! I was very ready for it to be the weekend. I think three trivia events in one week had worn me out.
I caught up on work stuff pretty quickly, but while I was doing that, a text from Raise came in that some stores were 7% off. Turned out that included PETCO, whose gift cards were already 4.2% off, so I got $250 worth of gift cards for $222.78.
I had wanted Aaron to come to me this time, since I’d gone to him the last one or two times. But he reminded me that we were going to his coworker’s housewarming party on Saturday, which was close to him. So we both agreed it made more sense for me to just go there, rather than have Aaron drive out to me, then my still having to drive out his way the next day.
I told him I would work out and then come over, but around 2 p.m. I realized that I just didn’t have it in me to do cardio. So I got ready and left not too long after work ended at 3 p.m. I gave Josie an extra serving of food, since I wouldn’t be there in the morning.
I stopped on the way to Aaron’s to drop off a prescription. So I got to his place around 4.
We just chilled out that night. We ordered Chili’s, and I paid. There were a few extras added to the meal, so it was $47.20 (!) after delivery and service fees, plus tip. Ouch.
We were both pretty beat, so we got in bed around 9:30 p.m., but didn’t fall asleep until around 10:30.
Total spent: $269.98 ($47.20 out of weekly funds)
I woke up around 7:30 a.m., and surprisingly Aaron was still asleep. Later, I learned he’d been up for a bit at 5 a.m. but had come back to bed.
My insurance covers membership to multiple gyms, so I was able to go with Aaron to work out. I’d forgotten protein bars, though, so we had to stop at Fry’s so I could grab something. I got a muffin, which was $1.08 after tax.
I managed 30 minutes of cardio (plus a cool down) and stretched and… Aaron was nowhere near done. So I went over to the free weights section and did arm exercises. Even with that, I sat around twiddling my thumbs for 20 minutes or so. Eesh.
By the time we were done at the gym and had gotten Aaron a snack for breakfast, there was no way we would get to the party at its noon start time. But I reminded myself that parties go on for a while and to not stress.
We got there about 30 minutes late, and there were already quite a few people. I tried not to feel too panicky, but with the delta variant floating around, my anxiety levels are once again up and down with no rhyme or reason. So part of the time I was fine, part of the time I was panicky.
Also, Aaron’s coworkers are all also Indian, as are their wives and children, all of whom seemed to know one another. So other than when Aaron introduced me to a few coworkers — who I’d exchange two sentences with — I didn’t really talk to anyone there. The host did come over and try to chat a bit. His wife was nice, but she was busy being a hostess to everyone.
The food was delicious — they had ordered several trays of Indian dishes — so I ate and internally laughed at all the kids too small to know not to stare at the random white girl.
After the party, we went and lay down for a bit before going bowling. It was National Bowling Day, so we got two hours of time plus rental shoes for $12. It was supposed to be $12 each, but Aaron had gotten different information ($12 for the whole party) over the phone. So when he mentioned that as he handed over the card, the manager said he’d honor that; and Aaron paid for both of us.
Afterward, we were both pretty hungry, but it was around 9 p.m. so options were a bit limited.
I had a free birthday burger at Red Robin, and Aaron had never been to one. So we went there. He ordered a drink — RR drinks are pretty stiff, plus he rarely drinks — so he was a bit out of it by the end of the meal. Which is probably why he didn’t make a move to pay, since he usually does. So I covered the meal. His burger and drink, plus my non-alcoholic drinks (and tipping on the full amount) meant I paid $38.66. Ouch.
Problem: Since he drank, I had to drive Aaron’s car. Which is a Mustang. And I hate driving other people’s cars even when they don’t cost $50,000+. So I was stressed, but we made it back without incident, thank god.
We pretty much went to bed immediately and fell asleep around 11 p.m.
Total spent: $39.74
I woke up around 8:30 a.m. and Aaron was still dead to the world. I guess he needed the rest.
He wasn’t working out that day, so I just relaxed until he woke up. Then we ordered some breakfast — I made sure he paid this time because the takeout that weekend had really added up — and relaxed.
I texted my tenant to ask if she could feed Josie. She has a set of keys to my place in case I’m ever locked out. Thankfully, she doesn’t mind. I think she’s grateful for the low rent and my bringing perishable packages inside when they’re delivered while she’s at work.
Later, I got out the ice cream from an earlier visit. Aaron wanted some, and not too long after, he announced he wanted even more. Sugar cravings for him are super rare, so we made sure to indulge by going down the block to the Water & Ice store, where he paid for a pint of pineapple coconut. Which we ate in one sitting.
A couple hours after that he declared that he wanted pizza, which he also rarely craves. I think all the calorie-loading to gain muscle — he’s put on about three pounds in the past two to three weeks — is changing his appetite.
He paid for the pizza, which we finished quickly (it was only an 11″ one) and then we lazed around on the bed chatting. Eventually, I made myself get up and go.
I was very low on gas, so I stopped off at Circle K and spent $33.15 to fuel up the car. I’d been doing so much driving for trivia and appointments that I had used a whole tank in only about 10 days, which is unheard of for me.
I stopped off at Fry’s before getting to the house because I wanted some fruit. But I ended up getting some junk food too, so I spent $13.75. Then I came home and ate and watched a little TV until I was chilled out enough to go to bed. As a result, I didn’t fall asleep until after 11 p.m. Sigh.
I got up and dealt with emails, then lay back down for a bit. I felt well-rested when I got back up. Yay!
Then I had to update the spending diary from the weekend and also transfer money out for the various weekend expenses, so that whole thing took around half an hour.
I also hadn’t written anything for that day (normally I post on Mondays), so I started working on a post that I’d put up the next day. Thankfully, there were minimal interruptions from customers.
But it was still past 1 p.m. by the time I got it all finished and scheduled to post. Then I just got through the rest of my workday until it was time to hit the gym.
I did 30 minutes on the elliptical, 5 cool down and then did three sets of five lunges and 10 squats. Ugh. I stretched a lot afterward and used the foam roller a lot to try to keep from being too sore the next day.
On the way home, I picked up a prescription at Fry’s ($29.89) and picked up a few munchies for $5.19. I also used some coupons Fry’s sent me for a free bodywash and a dozen eggs. I don’t eat eggs much — and don’t cook in general — but my tenant said she’d gladly take them off my hands.
I also stopped off at Walgreens to pick up a texturizing spray I’d gotten for $5.31.
I came home, put everything away and talked to Aaron for a bit on a videocall. Then I hung up so I could eat and chill out.
I was in bed by 10 p.m. — and used the massage gun on my legs to help avoid soreness — t I didn’t fall asleep until about 11 p.m.
Total spent: $40.39
I woke up and dealt with work emails, then realized I needed to order more protein bars. It turns out that Target was offering Buy One, Get One 25% off, so I put in three orders instead of my usual one. I use discounted gift cards to pay for Target orders, and the GCs are accounted for in past spending diaries. So none of the cost counts here.
Once that was done, I had to face the music and email a whole lot of people about reviewing cases we’d sent over — anywhere from 6 weeks to 8 months ago. Ugh. And I still had another 20ish cases to follow up on later in the week.
The good news is that I got several resolutions before the end of the day. But it was still a huge pain and not fun to politely nag/beg people to do their job.
My friend Jen called for a bit, so we chatted and debated the pros and cons of a purchase she was thinking of making. I encouraged her to buy it, since it was a replacement for an item that was all but dead and could be expensed by her business.
After work, I used the massage gun on my legs, which were very only a tiny bit stiff, and headed for the gym. After the cardio, I used free weights for my arms and did some crunches before stretching. Then I sat in the hydromassage chair for 10 minutes to reward myself.
On the way home, I stopped by for munchies — because of course if you’re working out, you should totally counteract that by consuming major calories (sigh) — and spent $6.99 there plus I got $20 out for walking around money.
Aaron videocalled for a bit, but my phone battery was getting low and he had some work to do (his boss had dumped some things on him); so we said good night. I just hoped things would calm down on Thursday so I could see him on my birthday.
I did my usual watch TV/munch thing for the rest of the night.
Total spent: $26.99
I woke up and got through emails. Then started dealing with more of the resolutions that some of my emails had (finally) caused.
At 10 a.m., I left to get a rapid test for COVID. I had been unnerved by how many people (and their small kids) had ended up being at Saturday’s housewarming. So I wanted to be safe.
The test was negative. Hooray!
I got back and was busy for most of the remaining workday, but I had time to get ready toward the end of the workday so that I could leave for Aaron’s directly after work. We were going to spend some time together before I had trivia that night.
I wasn’t going to spend the night after trivia, though, because I didn’t want to wake up early on my birthday. Aaron’s an early riser.
We chilled out for a bit, and that’s when I learned that the host of Saturday’s housewarming party had called in sick. Apparently, his whole family was sick. He had a terrible sore throat, the kids had that plus a cough. His daughter had played with a neighbor who started showing symptoms.
Yes, my test had been negative, but rapid results can be wrong. (A Twitter friend’s son had a negative rapid results test and a positive PCR test.) And while most people will test positive four days after exposure to the delta variant, it can take up to five.
I cursed myself for going, but then remembered why I’d agreed: Aaron was going to go regardless. And I was going to see Aaron. So one way or another, I was going to be exposed to anything at the party.
I cancelled the trivia that night, explaining the situation. We all agreed it was better to overreact than underreact.
I was freaked out about potential exposure, but Aaron was being weird and kind of shut down. He said he didn’t want to have his mind spiral with “what if.” Meanwhile, I live on the What If setting, so I was really going crazy with the specter of probable exposure.
Also, this meant I had to cancel my birthday massage the next day and stay home instead. I was already bummed about not having my usual group of friends to celebrate with — given my recent falling out with a member of the group — so I took this new wrinkle pretty hard. Aaron, however, doesn’t celebrate his birthday, so he didn’t get why it was that big a deal.
So I was irritated that I couldn’t let it go, and I was irritated that he wasn’t being empathetic. We had some food and went to bed, but nothing was really resolved.
Then, things got much worse.
Shortly after Aaron fell asleep, I started feeling wheezy at the end of each exhale. I wasn’t gasping for breath, but given my history of being on a ventilator, this naturally caused me some low-level panic
I tried to keep calm and not cry because Aaron had super early training session at the gym and I didn’t want to wake him about something he couldn’t do anything about (since it was too mild to go to the hospital for). But after about two hours, fatigue and fear caught up with me, and I started crying. This woke Aaron up, and he asked what was wrong. I said I was wheezy.
And here’s where things devolved big time.
He replied that I was wheezy because I kept crying. I said coldly, “No, I’m crying because I’m wheezy. It’s scary.”
He then made a comment about how he had an early training session and I was keeping him up. Lovely.
I said I’d tried not to freak out and wake him up, but it had happened. He repeated something about having to get up early.
I was royally pissed, got my stuff, woke him back up so he could lock up after me, and chewed him out for being an asshole. He didn’t really say anything.
Once outside, I bawled my eyes out — did I mention it was past midnight at this point and thus technically my birthday? — and wrote him a message about how hurt and angry I was. Then I drove home.
By the time I got in bed it was about 1 a.m. and it took me at least half an hour to fall asleep because I was so upset.
Total spent: $0
P.S.: Just to allay folks’ concern, no I don’t have COVID, and yes, Aaron and I have made up. He’d used his vape pen and had still been half asleep when I was freaking out, so he had no memory of what was said. He basically just had a hazy recollection of being woken up to lock the door after a supremely angry me and was too out of it to figure out what was going on. Still not okay, but a bit more understandable. We’ll be working on his overall empathy, though.
Total spent: $472.31 ($249.53 out of weekly funds)
Definitely not a low-spend week, even ignoring the discounted gift cards. Worse, most of the cost was on either junk food or restaurant food, both of which I keep trying to crack down on. Hopefully, my willpower reasserts itself soon.
How did everyone else’s spending go?