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For those who are new, my style of “spending” is a little convoluted. I have two checking accounts. I keep the majority of my money in the secondary account, transferring $250 a week into the main account. But I charge everything to the card to maximize rewards. As charges accrue, I transfer money out of the main account into the secondary one. Then I make a weekly payment on my credit card.
A tad confusing, perhaps, but it works for me. Anyway, here’s how spending went this week.
I woke up before 8 a.m. with about six and a half hours of sleep. On my birthday. Which already had started sucking the night before when, after midnight, Aaron had been a total jerk. And it meant I hadn’t gotten enough sleep.
I also woke up feeling more wheezy.
I headed out for an Urgent Care clinic, only to find that the chain my insurance covers was now only taking appointments. Despite having “Walk-Ins” on the outside of the building.
I checked CVS and Fry’s and there wasn’t a single rapid results test appointment around.
I was having such a crappy time that the birthday wishes on Twitter made me want to burst into tears. This was my worst birthday yet — and I’m including the year Mt. Redoubt blew a crap-ton of ash into the sky two days before my birthday and no one was supposed to drive anywhere or, really, go out at all if they could help it.
I wanted Cracker Barrel for breakfast, but using DoorDash, the store won’t accept customizations (for example, substituting a side) and they couldn’t take payment if I did a phone order. So I figured out some workarounds for the substitutions and then just ordered online for curbside pickup — having them put it into the trunk directly.
Some of the workarounds meant spending more, plus I got some of the new beignets the restaurant is offering, so the total with tax and tip was $26.64. Ouch. But also whatever, it hit the spot and it was my birthday anyway.
I realized I should check the lab that does my bloodwork, and sure enough it had same-day appointments for PCR tests. So I got a 3 p.m. appointment at a Walmart drive-through.
My wheeziness felt worse, so I went online and bought an oximeter at Walgreens.
Well, actually I bought two.
A couple of months ago, I met a Phoenix gal on OKCupid who was looking for friends, and we’ve been chatting ever since. Her schedule has been weird, plus she went on vacation for a bit, so we still hadn’t met, but I consider her a friend. She only lives five miles away, and she was also wheezy (worse than I was from the sound of it) and also waiting for a COVID test result.
Meanwhile, Walgreens had a BOGO50 deal and there was a 20% off coupon since the second oximeter put the total over $60. So it was essentially $13 to get her one. I ordered both (through Mr. Rebates, naturally) and once again had the person put the order directly in the trunk. The total was $58.62. I don’t take amounts of $60ish or more out of weekly funds.
I then dropped the oximeter outside her door and knocked before going back to my car.
It turns out my oxygen level was still very high. I think the issue is that I was wheezing when I exhaled — so I was getting plenty of air but still felt weird.
I chilled at home for a bit eating the leftovers from breakfast (mainly biscuits and apple butter) before going for my drive-thru test. It was unpleasant, even with self-administering, and afterwards I cried a bit in self-pity and exhaustion.
When I got home, I messaged Aaron that I was still pissed/hurt but also missed him. He videocalled, but he was very much not himself and didn’t really give me any sympathy, and his interest in coming over didn’t seem about comfort so much as his own interest in seeing me.
This weirdness/coldness took place over the course of two calls — interspersed with him taking a nap — and by the end of the second call, I was reading him the riot act for making me feel like he didn’t care. I told him he was acting weird, to get his crap together.
He briefly tried to quasi-jokingly pout that in telling him how he made me feel bad, I was making him feel bad and wasn’t that hypocritical. That didn’t go over well, and my response included, “No, you don’t get to be upset when I’m telling you how much your behavior hurt me. If you don’t like what you’re hearing, that’s on you. If it makes you feel bad, do better!” I was kinda proud of myself, honestly.
We hung up, I watched TV for another hour and went to bed around 10 p.m. The wheeziness had eased a bit, which was nice at least.
Total spent: $85.26 ($26.64 out of weekly funds)
I woke up to an apology from Aaron about the night before. It was brief but at least he sounded more like himself.
I got through the overnight emails, but then noticed our email system was malfunctioning.
We use Outlook (through a Gmail account) to collect emails, but we answer them through a system that allows for more easy database use when looking up old tickets. The secondary system wasn’t collecting emails at its normal pace. Instead, one would come through every two to three hours after it arrived in Outlook.
This happened once in the past, and we used Gmail, which is what my boss told me to do again that day. But I hate it because I have no access to canned responses. Every response has to be completely typed out, including Regards/my name/company name/company website URL. Ugh.
I did catch up on emails before too long, but I was also trying to get caught up on the spending diary because I was a few days behind. Plus I still had to edit the spending diary for the next day and schedule it.
Aaron called around 2:30 p.m. and I still wasn’t done. We talked for a bit, then he said he’d head over after I was done work.
He came over around 4 p.m. and we chilled out for a while. Then he ordered some pizza and cinnamon sticks — my choice because I was the (belated) birthday girl. He had wanted to see a movie but I reminded him that I wasn’t going out until I got my test result. So we watched Netflix instead. Turns out, he’d never seen Legally Blonde. He enjoyed it quite a bit.
He fell asleep while I was getting ready for bed around 10:30 p.m. I was asleep maybe half an hour later.
Total spent: $0
Aaron woke up around 6 a.m. and putzed around a little but came back to bed around 6:30 a.m. and set his alarm for 8 a.m. (He had a 10:30 a.m. appointment with his personal trainer.) But then he was still awake, and I wanted to stay asleep and said something to that effect.
Next thing I know, he was getting dressed and in a slightly sour mood. I asked what he was doing, he said he couldn’t sleep and muttered something about not want to start the day off with complaints, which I think was leveled at me? About my saying I wanted to stay asleep? I dunno.
I got up to try to convince him to stay. He said he hadn’t slept well — had woken up at 1 a.m. and couldn’t get back to sleep for a while — and was just going to go. He was kind of cold and gave me a half-hearted peck on the lips.
I was pissed when I came back to bed, but thankfully I was still able to fall asleep and didn’t wake back up til 9:30 a.m.
I did two loads of laundry and some other light cleaning, but my mid- to upper back muscles were incredibly stiff. Argh.
I had trivia that night, so I kept checking the lab website for my results. Even though they’d said they would text me when the results came in. Otherwise I just watched TV and messaged with a friend.
It got later and later in the day, and the results still weren’t in. So I gave up and ordered some comfort food via Instacart. The groceries were only around $25, but after fees and tip I paid $47.35. Owwwww.
I alerted the people who’d RSVPed to trivia and cancelled the event. Sigh.
Aaron still hadn’t messaged me — unusual for him — and I wasn’t about to initiate contact when he’d been so cold that morning. I just didn’t want to deal with it — or even just coping with more drama between us. I know rough patches happen but this week had been emotionally draining for me and I wondered what the hell was going on.
I ate the junk food from Instacart and watched TV. I finally turned off the TV around 11 p.m. but I didn’t fall asleep until around 12:30 a.m.
Total spent:$ 54.35
I woke up at 10:30 a.m. Yikes!
But at least my results had come in — and were negative. Phew!
I caught up on my spending diary from the previous two days, watched a little TV and mentally prepared myself to go to the gym.
Still no message from Aaron. Jeez.
Before going to the gym, though, I started the next day’s post. It was just my latest spending report, so it went fairly quickly. It’s always interesting to take a larger view of my spending while also drilling down on specific expenses.
At the gym I kept it to just 30 minutes of cardio (plus five minutes of cooldown) and stretching. I wasn’t feeling peppy enough to do weights.
I came home, munched on remaining food from my Instacart order and grew increasingly annoyed that Aaron hadn’t messaged. But given how he’d been when he left, I didn’t want to reach out in case he wanted some space.
I went to bed around 10 p.m., but I didn’t fall asleep until almost 11 p.m.
Total spent: $0
I woke up only to find more issues with the regular email system. So we were back to Gmail again. Gah!
At 10 a.m. I had servicemen over to take care of my pigeon problem. They’d always been a nuisance, but they were getting out of hand. There was pigeon poop all over my back patio.
So this company fenced off the shady areas where the birds had nested (cleaning them out first). The service was $450. Ouch. But worth it.
I still had my secondary duties at work, so I wasn’t caught up until 1 p.m.
At 2:30 p.m. I finally messaged Aaron to say that we hadn’t ever gone so long without at least a message or two, so should I be concerned?
I finished work and went to the gym. Where I started back on weight machine. Legs day… yay.
I got home around 5:30 p.m. pretty weary. I had some food and watched TV. Around 7 p.m. I messaged Aaron asking if he could at least quickly message something to let me know he was okay and just not up to/available for messaging.
About 30 minutes later I got a message that he’d thought I was busy that weekend for some reason, so he hadn’t wanted to bother me. Given that he knew I was waiting for my COVID results and I never indicated that I had any plans this weekend, this answer did not put me in a good mood.
He didn’t answer my reply about calling me before bed if he wanted, but when that happens, it just means he’s gone to bed early since he’s an early riser.
I watched some more TV, then went to bed around 10 p.m. again.
Total spent: $450 ($0 out of weekly funds)
I woke up to incredibly stiff calves, but my legs were otherwise okay.
I took Josie to the vet for her annual dental cleaning and general checkup. She wasn’t very happy about that, but I assured her it was for her own good. Best I could tell, she remained unconvinced.
The email system was still out (sigh), so once again it took me a while to get caught up on my various duties, but as of about noon things were peaceful again.
Aaron had messaged mid-morning to say he’d call that evening. I clarified that the suggestion that he call me had been for the previous night, not Tuesday night. I said I had trivia, plus a thing before that, so I wouldn’t be available after 4 p.m. He replied that okay, he’d just catch up with me the next day.
Great. Five days without any real communication and he didn’t seem to care. This wasn’t helping my mood.
I messaged him my schedule for the rest of the week (busy Thursday, working til 7 p.m. Friday but I could do that from his place, busy Saturday night) so we could plan when to see each other next. We agreed on Friday — and that we’d videochat the next day.
My CVS CarePass monthly reward had come in, so I went online used that and some other Extrabux plus a sale to get two bottles of lotion for $3.33 after tax. The saved savings from that were $6.11.
Walgreens was having a BOGO50 sale on foundation — which I was almost out of — so with coupons/store rewards, I got two bottles of foundation for $3.93. Another $7 went into saved savings for the coupons and store rewards.
A friend from my old trivia group let me know that they and their partner would come that night. Yay!
The rest of the day kept me relatively busy, and at 2 p.m. I went to pick up Josie, who had apparently been a difficult patient. Which is when I realized I had completely forgotten about giving her gabapentin before her visit. Oops.
I paid $15.16 for the nail trim they did, then headed home, finished up my day and got ready for a cross-group MeetUp happy hour I and another organizer were having before trivia.
Unfortunately, no one else showed. One got caught up at work and said she’d just have to meet us at trivia. The other got in a car accident that apparently totaled his car. Eek!
I ordered some fries, which after tax and tip were $5.27. They were tasty but yikes dine-out options are getting expensive! I just keep reminding myself that it’s because the minimum wage was raised, so the higher prices are worth it.
At 6 p.m. we headed to trivia, where one gal had already shown. One person had RSVPed at the last minute, so we ended up with eight people. Unfortunately, this trivia format only allows groups of six, so we split into two teams.
Alas, the place turned out to have terrible acoustics. We could only understand maybe — maybe — half of what he was saying. Luckily, the questions appear on your phone too.
We ended up coming in second (my four people) and third (the other four folks), but the venue only pays out for first and second.
I had ordered a $14.95 entree, so after tax and tip it was $20.87.
I got home at 9:30 p.m. and called my friend Jen because we had some catching up to do.
I got in bed around 10:30 and fell asleep pretty quickly.
Total spent: $61.67
I woke up and actually got up with my alarm, rather than my usual “let’s sleep a few more minutes” habit because I had Orkin coming almost first thing.
Orkin is a little pricey at $84.36 every other month, but I haven’t seen a single roach in the 10 years since I started using them. Plus I have a recurring gopher issue, which they help with. I don’t take amounts that large out of weekly funds, so nothing left my account for the visit.
My calves were in full-on protest from legs day, and it actually hurt when for the first minute or two that I’d stand. Ugh.
I got started on work. The email system was still down, so I admitted defeat and copy/pasted some of my responses into a Word document to avoid having to type everything out.
Once I was caught up — which didn’t take long — I messaged Aaron about whether I should buy a bowling Groupon. He wants to try to make bowling our thing — something we can do together, since I don’t like volleyball and even if I were in amazing shape, I don’t think my post-GBS muscles will ever manage nine to 11 mile hikes — and we settled on a $25 Groupon.
At 12:30 p.m., Aaron messaged to say he had a brief break in between calls, but I was headed out to pick up some takeout ($14.31) to take advantage of the last day of my DQ BOGO Blizzard offer. We agreed to chat later.
I came home, ate and dealt with emails as they came in. After work, I had a beauty service done for $40 with tip.
I got home and Aaron called about half an hour later. He wanted me to come over. But since I’d get there later than usual, he suggested I bring my computer and work from his place so we’d have more time together.
Okay, so he was back to being sweet. Good.
I went over and we just caught up and chilled out. I did get him to talk about what had bothered him Saturday. (Not an easy task, since he likes to leave stuff in the past. But uh, that doesn’t work with most dating issues.) It gave me some insight into why he had been upset — even though I don’t completely agree with his version of events — which I think is going to help us avoid that type of miscommunication in the future.
He fed me some food from his meal delivery service, and we went to bed around 9:30 p.m. But we lay around talking, so I didn’t fall asleep until after 11.
Total spent: $124.36 ($79.31 out of weekly funds)
Total spent: $775.64 ($221.97 out of weekly funds)
Ack, that’s a huge number — and the weekly funds spent isn’t a low figure either. Sigh. But the birds/Orkin stuff needed to be done — and that was almost 69% of that huge amount.
As for the weekly funds spent… Sometimes you have to pay to comfort yourself with food when you’re having a thoroughly crappy time.
As I type this, I’m about 90 minutes away from my rescheduled birthday massage (a 90-minute one, incidentally) and I’ll be picking up my annual slab o’ chocolate cake on the way home. So I’m belatedly getting my birthday celebration in, at least.