For those who are new, my style of “spending” is a little convoluted. I have two checking accounts. I keep the majority of my money in the secondary account, transferring $240 a week into the main account. But I charge everything to the card to maximize rewards. As charges accrue, I transfer money out of the main account into the secondary one. Then I make a weekly payment on my credit card.
A tad confusing, perhaps, but it works for me. Anyway, here’s how spending went this week.
I woke up still tired from weird sleep and having driven to Tempe (22 miles each way) for trivia the night.
The guy we’re now calling Real Estate Guy (REG) was coming over that night, so I just did my best to rest during the day.
After work, I continued the resting until it was time to get ready for company.
REG showed up around 7:30 p.m. and we ended up talking quite a bit about just how hard dating apps/flaky people are to deal with. At least we can be open with each other. He’s definitely not serious dating material, but he’s nice enough.
He left around 10:30 p.m. but I inexplicably stayed up late and didn’t fall asleep til about 1 a.m. Oy.
Total spent: $0
I woke up very tired yet again, but with errands that needed to be run.
I did a pickup order at Walgreens for $40.67, since there was a sale and some coupons I’d wanted to use.
It wasn’t ready until after work. I picked that up, returned some Amazon items to the Kohl’s drop-off, then stopped at Fry’s for some food and a lot of munchies ($39.06).
I came home and rested and ate. My new friend from trivia, who we’ll call MeetUp Buddy (MB), texted to see if I was doing anything. He and his ex-wife are selling the house, so he’s been staying at his parents’ house. They are normally in Flagstaff but were visiting. And while he loves them dearly, he couldn’t take another night of board games with them.
I said I wasn’t going anywhere but he could hunker down here. I still needed to watch Reservoir Dogs before I went to the version being done by the puppet troupe. (This was the same one that had done a very foul-mouthed, very hilarious version of Die Hard at Christmastime.)
So he came over, and I rented the movie on Vudu ($3.03). It was a good thing I watched it, as I’d forgotten most of the movie. He took off not too long after the movie finished, so around 10:30. It’s really nice to have a new friend. And neither of us is quite the other one’s type physically speaking, so I don’t have to worry about things getting weird between us.
I fell asleep around midnight.
Total spent: $82.76
This was going to be a long day.
It was my overtime weekend, so I got up blearily and answered emails. Then I lay back down for a while and woke up feeling more or less human.
I hadn’t heard from the youngin’ from the previous week about whether he was coming that night. At 3 p.m. he wrote my very apologetic. He’d gotten sucked into an overnight fix and had been trying to get it all done in time for the board game night. But he still had a few things to do plus a meeting with the managers.
I said it was no big deal, and we wouldn’t be at the bar until around 9:30 p.m. so he could always meet us there if he felt up to it.
I took off for the board game night at 5:30, there 20 minutes late because I’d gotten the address slightly wrong. Sigh.
We stayed for a couple of hours, then left for the club. A couple of people said they’d meet us downtown.
The Uber fare would’ve been about $30, so MB hopped in my car and we stopped at a park ‘n ride not far from downtown. The train was coming, and I was having issues getting the machine to take my darn card. I wasn’t sure if the machine gave change. So I just paid with a $5 bill for me and MBand got a $1 coin in change. So that answers that question.
The $5 bill was part of money I’d taken out at an ATM a week or so back, so it’d already been accounted for in weekly spending and thus won’t be counted here.
Unfortunately, the light rail we were on stopped for several minutes without any explanation. Then it started again (also without explanation) and at the next stop, it once again just halted for a while.
We weren’t far from the intended stop, so we got out and walked. And then walked some more. Because I got turned around. By the time we got to where the other gal was meeting us, we had to go almost directly to the club.
Which is where I discovered that the place no longer has free cover before 10 p.m. (poo) but did still have drink specials (yay!).
The cover for the bar was $10. There were still a few minutes left in the drink specials, so my first drink was $4 with tip. I owed MB a bit because he’d paid for our Uber from downtown the week prior. So I got him a drink along with my second one. At that point, drinks were back to $11. For wells. Ouch. So $25 total after tip.
We danced for a while, and a guy from the board game night met up with us. He was pretty interested in the gal who had come with us and had been flirting pretty hard with her at the board game event.
She had been polite but nothing more. So I didn’t feel too bad about distracting him so MB could shoot his shot. Which he did the smart way: laughing and chatting in a friendly way without any pushing.
We all decided they needed a break from dancing, which admittedly had been going on for around 40 minutes. Maybe longer. The other guy must’ve realized she wasn’t interested because he peeled off to a different bar.
We got to the new bar, and those two were vibing well and even danced together a bit. I was starting to feel a tad like a third wheel, but I was happy for him.
After a while, MB realized he’d left his credit card at the first bar. So we went to retrieve that. Unfortunately, we got turned around and walked a healthy chunk of blocks in the wrong direction. We did finally find the original place, but my feet were starting to hurt.
After that, I was famished — I’d had a late lunch so didn’t eat much for an actual dinner — so we stopped at a place and got some food. That was $15 plus tax, but the waitress didn’t split our bill and then disappeared for a good chunk of time. I was beat — it was 2 a.m. at this point — so I just took out a $20 bill (again, accounted for in a previous spending diary), and MB paid for himself and the gal. He very smoothly said she could just buy him a drink sometime. Clever boy.
She was nice enough to drive us back to the park ‘n ride, since an Uber even a short distance would’ve been insanely expensive right as the bars let out.
I then still had to drop him at his car where the board game event had happened, then I could finally make my way home.
I came back and answered the emails that had come in overnight so that I could sleep in some. Meaning I didn’t get into bed until almost 4 a.m. and it took me about an hour to fall asleep somehow.
Total spent: $63
Josie woke me up crying at 10-something, and I stumbled out to give her food, then collapsed back in bed until 11.
I then got up and dealt with emails and sat around feeling kind of awful. I also had realized the night before that I’d left the cafe where the board game event had been held without paying for my drink. The guy holding the event had covered me, so I sent Venmoed him $11 for the drink and to chip in for the pizza I’d had a couple slices of.
I ordered some toothpaste from CVS since I had a coupon. It was $9.06, and since I only bought because of the coupon, there is no saved savings counted here.
I had already broken down and bought some Superlikes on OKCupid because I found one guy who seemed really appealing/promising. And a new feature on OKC only allows you to use SuperLikes. (Later I found out these people appear in your normal feed too if you’re patient, grumble grumble.)
I had a small gift card balance in my Apple iTunes account, so $7.15 went to Saved Savings and $9.08 went on the card.
I was exhausted — and my hips and legs in general were really stiff from the dancing and, to a lesser extent, walking, so I texted the guy I was supposed to meet that evening to see if he had Monday free.
That led to a whole complicated discussion where his days off were unclear most weeks and then he said he can request days off but “you keep changing the dates” so he didn’t want to formally make a request.
Uhhhhh…. This is the guy who didn’t think to text me Monday when he got called into a meeting. Then didn’t try to meet me after it either.
Since then, I’d told him what days I was busy — and he’d messaged me every single one of them asking what I was doing. Then been disappointed.
And the previous night, I’d messaged him when I started feeling like a third wheel to see whether he was free. He’d said he was just getting out of work in Mesa. I’d said he should stop by. He’d said maybe (???) and then for 30 to 40 minutes I intermittently messaged with him trying to figure out logistics like “If you’re going to come here, let me know so I can be by the door” until it finally came out that he was having a drink in Tempe. Meaning he’d gotten the invitation to come meet me finally — something he’d been begging to do for days — and he’d instead decided to stop and have a drink mere miles from where I was.
So that little comment was the last straw. I gave him that recap and said to go find a younger woman because they’re more likely to put up with not listening, bad communication and mild gaslighting. Older women know better.
He messaged trying to say he was sorry and he’d make it work whenever. But I told him to go back to swiping.
I was very hungry but too tired to take advantage of a UberEats pickup deal. So I sucked it up and paid for delivery ($34.58). It hit the spot, at least.
I crawled into bed at 9 p.m. and fell asleep about half an hour later.
Total spent: $70.87
I slept around 10 and a half hours, and still woke up beat. I dealt with all the emails and a couple other chores, then crawled back in bed for an hour.
The good news is that I was talking to the guy I’d paid to superlike on OKCupid, and he really did seem very intriguing/promising. We’ll call him The Spaniard. I don’t know if it’d turn into anything beyond casual, but he was very appealing. So I guess I’m glad I spend the money after all.
He said he might back back in town (he was traveling for business) the following day, but he needed his assistant to check whether that was going to work. He said he’d let me know the next morning. Since no one had RSVPed for Tuesday trivia anyway, I figured it wasn’t like I was postponing anything for a maybe.
The rest of the workday, I just kept an eye on emails and rested. I decided to cancel the board game night event I’d signed up for. I was mildly annoyed because it looked like a lot of fun, but I had a feeling that if I went out that night, I’d be useless for another day or two. Stupid chronic fatigue.
After work, I ran to Walgreens to get some candy I’d been craving ($11.97) and then went to the post office to mail some items because I was out of stamps. I took one look at the line and turned around. I’d buy some stamps at the grocery store.
When I got home, I called Safeway about a medication I’d been trying to fill since the previous Wednesday. (I’d left a message, hadn’t heard back, called Friday, and they said they hadn’t gotten any voicemail, they put through the order, I still hadn’t heard back, checked in Sunday to find out they’d been out of the med and were waiting for a shipment to come Monday.) I left another voicemail. Grrrrrr.
I watched TV and overate for the rest of the night. It was very soothing.
I went to bed around 9:30 p.m. and was asleep not too long after that.
Total spent: $11.97
I got up still exhausted for some reason, so I lay back down as soon as I was done with emails. I didn’t really sleep, but I felt better after having lain down for 20 minutes.
I started two loads of laundry ($7 to the Washer/Dryer fund) and messaged the OKCupid guy. Unfortunately, he wasn’t coming back that day. I asked if we were looking at the end of the week. He said at the absolute latest,* yes, and that he was very excited to meet me. So here’s hoping he gets back sooner than that.
I finally called in an order for the tile, which the lady had me then text to her. But that was one big thing off my to-do list. Yay!
But later she texted me asking what kind of black pencil tile I had in mind.
So after work, I headed to the tile place, only to discover that she’d found they didn’t have any in stock. I said I’d look around the following day to find one I liked.
I then headed to Safeway — which had finally filled the dang prescription — to pick that up. It was $34.05, plus I got some munchies for $13.59.
After that, I just came home and rested up. I was a bit weary, and I had trivia the next day.
I went to bed around 10.
Total spent: $54.64
*His business deal keeps dragging on. He swears he hasn’t secretly moved to California, which I joked I was starting to suspect; but I’m basically not counting on seeing him any time soon. If we meet at all. My bad luck continues.
I woke up and got through my initial workload but was pretty beat. So I tried lying back down once I got all caught up.
When I got back, I finished up work, then had to head to the opposite end of town. The dryer was making ominous noises. I’d looked up a couple of fix-it posts, but I quickly determined the repair was too intricate for me. The unit is 16 years old, anyway, so it doesn’t owe me anything.
My tenant had said her aunt got some good deals at a place selling gently used appliances. So I went to check it out.
Unfortunately, there was no indication how old the units were or how much they’d been used. Which I guess I should’ve expected; they’re not cars. But the prices on the units I was considering weren’t that much lower than the models Consumer Reports had reviewed well. They just had bells and whistles I didn’t need. (The danger of buying used, I suppose.)
So I decided to just go with a new, basic unit.
I stopped by the post office on the way home and dropped off a clothing return plus my business tax forms for the quarter.
I had just enough time to order the dryer at Home Depot (not including that price in weekly spending thankyouverymuch) and get ready before heading to trivia.
I really goofed on an answer in the second half, betting the maximum points on something I should’ve known was wrong, and we missed a few more.
So we were in 7th going into the final round. But I managed to pull the answer out of thin air, pure guess but so is most of trivia, and we were only one of four teams (out of probably 17) that got it right. So we ended up in third place and got some bar cash. Woot!
In case you’re wondering, the final question was “In the 1930s, China banned this 1865 novel because it believed animals should not be seen talking or doing other activities that would elevate them to an equal status as humans.” Answer at the end of the post so you have a chance to guess.
I had bought something for myself, plus some cheese dip for the table, so my total was $19.98 after tax and tip.
I came home and did some chatting with people, so I didn’t get to bed until after 11.
Total spent: $19.98
Total spent: $303.22
Answer: Alice in Wonderland